How To Cope With Stress At Christmas

Mums, Dads, carers everywhere. Christmas Day can be the most stressful time of the year. You’ve been up since 2am cooking and low and behold, you’ve forgotten to get the Christmas pud. With 13 people descending at lunchtime and all the shops shut, you have no hope in pulling of their best Christmas yet.

It is tough to keep a smiling face going, and its easy to forget just how much they all do love you. You might be cook, cleaner, tidy-upper and tea maker when everyone else is falling asleep, but getting any thanks might be slim. So take a deep breath. And relax. This is a special message just for you…

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How To Manage Bed Wetting In 7 Minutes

5 minutes on how to manage bewetting in autism

Hello there! Today, I am going to share with you my tips on how to manage childhood bed wetting in Autism in FIVE MINUTES.

First off, let’s talk about what are the causes of toddler and school bed wetting.

Did you know that bedwetting is a very common thing in childhood? In fact, 20% of all children under the age of 5 bed wet at some point. Children tend to grow out of it and only 1% are still bed wetting by the age of 15.

But what about Autism?

We know that stress levels are high in Autism. The average autistic child feels the same amount of anxiety first thing in the morning as a neuro-typical child feels in the middle of a school day. Many autistic children experience high levels of anxiety in everyday life. Meaning bedwetting can be a very frustrating problem for parents.

So, next, let’s tackle some common myths;

  1. Bed wetting is attention seeking behaviour; Rubbish. Bed wetting is uncontrollable for the child. They wouldn’t do it, if they could control it.
  2. It doesn’t run in families; Yes, it does. It can be hereditary.
  3. Kids bed wet because they are lazy: wrong again. It is uncontrolled and happens. The last reason it happens is laziness.
  4. Kids can control it consciously. Well, it’s hard to believe that some people still think that way…

Next, let’s look at TWO important things you must NEVER do:

NEVER make your child clean it up – this will only make them feel worse. Bed wetting is not bad behaviour and so therefore, cannot be managed this way.

NEVER tease or scold a child for wetting the bed. It’s no one’s fault that it happens.

Okay, so what CAN we do about it? Well, there are lots of ways we can tackle bed wetting. First off, reassure your child that they are safe, not naughty for doing it and that they are comforted and loved. Do this, and you are half way there to solving the problem.

Avoid late night drinks especially ones that contain caffeine. And late night snacks too. Also, it might be worth avoiding your child going to the toilet twice before bed. Once before preparation for bed and again just before they get into bed. It might sound like a good idea to ensure that their bladder is truly empty but this will only encourage their bladder to relax so that it could wee accidentally after the child has fallen asleep.

Check to see if it’s a medical problem. Contact your GP or doctor if your child has been dry for six months prior to bed wetting, particularly if they are over the age of 7, as it may be an infection like a UTI (urinary tract infection.) Ask your child if they feel a burning sensation when they wee. This sometimes it’s good indicator of an infection. Also, note if they are wetting themselves during the day. If they are school age, check with their teacher to make sure there isn’t anything stressful going on in school that you might not know about.

Once you see your GP, he will ask you about home life, family background and so to eliminate any stress that could be causing the bed wetting. Don’t forget, that children can easily pick up stresses felt by another member of the household.

Medication:

Your GP may offer medication to help your child sleep like Melatonin (you can find out more about Melatonin from our video here.) Or you might like to try some herbal remedies but check with your doctor first before giving these to your child.

Consider a mattress protector and even a moisture alarm which you can buy from Amazon. These are alarms, like baby monitors, which will alert you to any wetness in your child’s bed. This will encourage your child to get up and go to the bathroom, as you can wake them in time. You might also like to try waking your child up in the middle of the night to see if they want to go to the toilet.

Night plug in night lights to show a way to the bathroom if your house is very dark at night. Children fear the dark sometimes and this could be what’s stopping them from getting up and going to the loo.

If you want to find out more about bedwetting, you will love our video.

How to managed bed wetting in 7 minutes

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Day 2 after Scoliosis corrective surgery

Jon has Autism and is probably one of very few children who have gone through this massive life changing surgery.

Scoliosis corrective surgery on my Autistic son
Jon on day two after surgery and discharge from intensive care

I can still hear the voices of disapproval in my head and from outside. why bother? Jon is brilliant, clever and smart. Why not let him have the same opportunities as any other kid?

The struggle felt by him has been ten fold above anything else. a girl, slightly younger than him also had the exact same operation the same day as Jon. She is a non autistic bright and happy girl who was keen to sit up whilst still in Intensive care. Jon on the other hand was grumpy telling everyone from a loud voice he wanted to die. I, his flaking mother could do nothing else but feel helpless and guilty.

Jon’s scoliosis had been severe shortening his life to barely 30 years old if he had not gone through this ordeal. His double curvature had been enough to eventually crush his heart and lungs meaning the last few years of his short life would have been spent confined to a wheelchair.

Day two after husband surgery and back on the ward was a platform for Jon to feel more comfortable with the staff and doctors around him that he could shout and swear. Yet it was also on this day that he stood up from his bed. Got up on his feet and successfully transferred  himself from bed to chair and back again. despite the tears and frustration felt by me over the last three days since his admission, I was clapping with delight at this big step towards recovery.

I sit at his bedside and watch him sleep after a wide awake night from all of us on the ward the night before.

It feels now it’s been worth the struggle with school, insurance company, hospital and family to get him here.