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Why I started Michelle Hatcher Media… 

digital marketing for beginnersI’m often asked about what it is that Michelle Hatcher Media does. Sounds like a reasonable question! 

Its an answer I trot out almost to the word… We offer courses, books and step by step guides to help people find independence and happiness in life. 

Then I stop myself… 

It’s what we do but not WHY we do it. 

Years ago I started my first business. I focused on being the voice between those in society who couldn’t speak and the agencies who controlled the environment they lived in. 

Why? 

Because I knew what it was like to get ignored. 

And this is how it began… 

About twenty years ago I lived next door to drug dealers. 

I was alone, with a baby and vulnerable and an easy target for entertainment. 

I spent the next three years battling with local authorities. I was bullied night and day and the butt of every prank my neighbours put upon me for kicks. 

Myself and my baby were spat at in the streets. We put up with loud music night at day, used needles thrown over the fence into my garden. 

The worst was having human excrement pushed through my letter box. 

Young stoned men using my letter box as a urinal. I had to nail my letter box shut and have another neighbour take my mail first me. 

It was the darkest, most frightening three years of my life. 

I did eventually get them moved after a long struggle to be heard by the council and the police but little did I realise, it was not over. 

They were moved to a property a few streets away. My ordeal didn’t stop. My drugged up neighbours were out for revenge. 

Next my car and house were targeted. My car would have its windows smashed almost nightly, eventually my insurance company refused to repair my car yet again and it had to get scrapped. My house was sprayed with graffiti in the middle of the night. My front door kicked repeatedly at night. Sick and urine on my porch. 

And why? Because I was a single mother who stood up to them. 

Since then each business, venture and project I have seen through has been in favour of the silent ones. The people who lacked support from anyone. 

I have stood up for the vulnerable, the silent and the ones lacking in confidence, guidance and inspiration. 

Digital marketing for beginners and signs of Aspergers syndrome have been no different. 

These two projects have drawn me to work with some of the most incredibly talented people in the world today. We, together draw on our experiences to help the ordinary people in the world do extraordinary things in both their personal and professional lives. 

That’s what we will continue to do for ever more… 

Because we all deserve a life we can get proud of. 

Find out how we are supporting sole traders and home start up businesses in reaching bigger audiences and generating more sales: https://digitalmarketingforbeginners.net

Find out how we are transforming young Aspergers lives and encouraging careers and adventure at https://signs-of-aspergers-syndrome.org.

Thanks for reading. 

Michelle Hatcher 

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Five CBT & Autism Q and A’s

What is CBT?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Autism has been widely researched over the last 30 years seeing such courses which claim to practically cure young people of Autism. Of course CBT alone does not. There is no cure for Autism. However, with careful intervention of a number of alternative therapies, diet and lifestyle, there can always be a significant change in the individual.

I believe that Autism is a disorder which is the result of the environment the person is in at that moment. Shift the environment and the traits of Autism ‘disappear.’ The key to the ultimate intervention is the environment. All the other methods and strategies simply support rather than remedy.

CBT was designed to help people with post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and eating disorders such as anorexia. Yet the intervening CBT with Autism is still a relatively new concept which is being found to be highly beneficial with many clients and their families.

Who will it help?

CBT will help your child enormously if they fit into the following criteria;

  1. They are of an age where they can be responsible for their own actions (for example, from the age of 8 upwards)
  2. They have at best some reasonable control over their behaviour
  3. That behaviour is led by a thought process.
  4. They have the following disorders: Asperger’s syndrome and/or high functioning Autism.

Cognitive behavioural therapy focuses on how someone thinks and encourages them to identify negative thought patterns which cause unwanted behaviour. For your child, CBT can be highly effective for helping ease meltdowns and outbursts; shouting, swearing, pathological demand avoidance syndrome and communication.

CBT helps people who have social and communication issues and also those who would benefit from developing these skills for a more rewarding lifestyle. It looks at how we think and who we behave in relation to how we interact with others and how our behaviours affect people and society around us.

Will it help my child to cope with society?

Where people are keen to develop a sense of being so that they can fit into society, then CBT is a very good place to start. With my son, Jon, he found CBT very effective as his belief was not to stand out from the crowd as being ‘different’ but the desire to want to fit into the world and live as normally as possible. With many young people on the spectrum who have a capacity to think outside their Autism, there is a notable wish to be accepted in society, therefore CBT is another pathway that is open to them to make the transitions needed. CBT gives these people the right tools to help them overcome situations which they would ordinarily find troublesome and stressful.

Can it help stop meltdowns?

We covered thought processes and keep a though log in the first part of the Masterclass course. This is an exercise which is widely used to help people understand the link between thoughts and behaviours. We looked schemas and negative thought patterns which are often the cause misinterpretation thus leading to meltdowns. In my book ‘Extraordinary Journey’ I talk about the time when my son Jon, had the most incredible meltdown in a café which had been triggered by his misinterpretation of my mother’s actions. A meltdown that would have been avoided had he realised what she was doing.

CBT can help enormously with the following:

  • Anger and aggressive behaviour
  • Anxiety
  • Depression in teenagers
  • Social difficulties
  • Self-harm
  • Repetitive behaviour
  • Communication problems

Where Can I Find Out More?

You can find out more by downloading our FREE guide here which covers signs and symptoms of Autism, Asperger’s syndrome and early intevention. Or you can sign up below if you want to join our Member’s Only Unleashing The Positive Masterclass

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Michelle Hatcher is the author of the Progress Pentagon parenting courses and founder of the best-selling : Unleashing The Positive Mind Masterclass. She is a certified CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, mother of 15 year old Jon who has Autism and PDA and certified Life Coach.

She is also a member of the Complimentary Medical Association, the International Alliance of Holistic Therapists
and The Association of Integrative Psychology.  Her autobiography, How To… uncovers the secrets of Autism and how to overcome it plus it tracks her life as a mother of an Autistic child, how she developed her best-selling courses using CBT and NLP with Autism. She is also a public speaker on Autism Awareness.

She lives in Wiltshire with husband Nick, son, Jon and three cats; Apple, Missy and Augusta.

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One Good Reason Why We Should Listen to Jeremy Piven

Today’s inspirational news flash is that actually, we’re all the same, even the greatest people on the planet. In mind, body and spirit, we breathe, walk, talk and search for a deeper meaning on the same level. Regardless of where we are, what country we’re currently in and what outfit we drew from the wardrobe that morning.

Star of the recent ITV hit, Mr Selfridge, Jeremy Piven talked to The Gentleman’s Journal back in May 2016 about life, London and where he wants to be in ten years time. As with any of these casual ‘we bumped into…and chatted’ interviews, the reader is usually left with a half drunk cup of coffee and a wonder of what life is like on ‘the other side.’ I usually flick through such star struck conversations with a slight whiff of curious nonchalance especially if the undertone is ‘you’re life is never going to be as good as ours,’ but I found myself reading the article with a growing interest and it got me thinking about that elusive game our monkey subconscious minds play with stuff like this; perception.

17 foot tall mentor, Tony Robbins, booms across a stage in front of several thousand followers about how our minds like to generalise everything. From the colour of skin to the types of sneakers won by a rap star, we just love to hang out with our like-minded unconsciousness and rant on about how fantastic our lives would be if we were this guy or this model slinking along a red carpet somewhere. I hate to tell you chaps, it ain’t like that. Mr Piven attempts to engage with TGJ during the interview about perception; what is real and what appears to be real. Sadly, it is at the point where the interviewer decides to break rapport with the actor and end the interview in the nicest possible way which I found to be an enormous shame; just when the conversation was starting to get interesting.

I guess the gripe I have here is that it appeared that the interviewer had a perception that the readers would have had enough of Mr P at this point and therefore, the article finishes. Yet there are a good reasonable amount of fascinated challengers and thinkers out there who would have loved to have heard the truer side of the story. What is it we’re all looking for? What is the greater being we want to be at one with? As Abraham Maslow believed, it is those of us who meet our basic human needs for survival who reach higher to self-actualisation. We study, we learn, we become or just want to find out more about reality, or what we perceive as reality.

Mr Piven in quite right; the fact that two people who have never met, can have a conversation heading towards intimacy yet be thousands of miles away across continents.  When put into plain English, it is very surreal. Yet is this just another example of the human mind reaching out to connect with another on a deeper level? I would certainly agree with that being the desired result every time I smile at a stranger in the street.

Mr Piven points out in the interview that age is not something we should be looking for in each other (another perception in society is that if we don’t look young or fit enough, we’ve proverbially had it.) For me, I have battled with a long-held and much nurtured belief, that as I didn’t do so well during my 20’s, I should be hanging up my mountain boots in my 40’s. The perception we need to focus on is to strive for your goals at any point in your life, and this needs to be the image you run towards, no matter what. (By the way, million-dollar motivational giant Tony Robbins is 56. That certainly makes me feel better.)

As I stepped off a plane from Seattle a few days ago, I reflected back on the long weekend I had spent with 60 or so Americans who, like me, had gathered to listen to Dr Matt James and colleagues talk about NLP and Huna; the ancient teachings of the people of Hawaii. Up until a week ago, I had believed that the U.S was a magical land (as I still think it is.) For a humble Brit, I had grown up believing that it was the land were dreams came true and that everyone was ‘sorted’ in the States. America, for me, has been the big brother I never had to look up to. For me, America set the standard, and I followed. My perception of the people in the U.S updated, I am pleased to say. I was fortunate enough to make some lasting friendships with my new-found cousins from the free world. Their impressions on the one and only Brit in the camp, lasting and cherished.

Coming back home I realised that people, no matter where they are from and how successful they are in their lives, are all human beings with dreams, fears of failing and desires to connect with other humans. My weekend in America exposed me to real emotions, real change and strong spirit. Something that in the U.K, we still haven’t got to grips with. Stepping back to TGJ interview for a moment, I felt that Mr Piven in the interview with TGJ was looking for a connection; a conversation at a deeper level; an image of a more intellectual plane, but somehow appeared to be fading with each passing line.

My thought for today is this; the next time to gasp at the latest front page of The Enquirer, or judge a more mature star for piling on the odd pound or two or for making a bad wardrobe choice that day, stop. Realise if you can, that these people we see on our screens and in our papers are just like us; human beings who have a voice, who have thoughts, and if we let them speak fully, we might just learn something.

Here is recent interview I found on radio in the U.S which you might like to watch, oh and Mr P, if you’re reading this, there will always be those who are jealous of what others have and to make themselves significant, they will jump up and down in the only way they know how. Feel sorry for them Mr P. It’s only envy for what you have. And that’s the best spin on it…. 

https://youtu.be/HoC6EgZSKDA