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Why I started Michelle Hatcher Media… 

digital marketing for beginnersI’m often asked about what it is that Michelle Hatcher Media does. Sounds like a reasonable question! 

Its an answer I trot out almost to the word… We offer courses, books and step by step guides to help people find independence and happiness in life. 

Then I stop myself… 

It’s what we do but not WHY we do it. 

Years ago I started my first business. I focused on being the voice between those in society who couldn’t speak and the agencies who controlled the environment they lived in. 

Why? 

Because I knew what it was like to get ignored. 

And this is how it began… 

About twenty years ago I lived next door to drug dealers. 

I was alone, with a baby and vulnerable and an easy target for entertainment. 

I spent the next three years battling with local authorities. I was bullied night and day and the butt of every prank my neighbours put upon me for kicks. 

Myself and my baby were spat at in the streets. We put up with loud music night at day, used needles thrown over the fence into my garden. 

The worst was having human excrement pushed through my letter box. 

Young stoned men using my letter box as a urinal. I had to nail my letter box shut and have another neighbour take my mail first me. 

It was the darkest, most frightening three years of my life. 

I did eventually get them moved after a long struggle to be heard by the council and the police but little did I realise, it was not over. 

They were moved to a property a few streets away. My ordeal didn’t stop. My drugged up neighbours were out for revenge. 

Next my car and house were targeted. My car would have its windows smashed almost nightly, eventually my insurance company refused to repair my car yet again and it had to get scrapped. My house was sprayed with graffiti in the middle of the night. My front door kicked repeatedly at night. Sick and urine on my porch. 

And why? Because I was a single mother who stood up to them. 

Since then each business, venture and project I have seen through has been in favour of the silent ones. The people who lacked support from anyone. 

I have stood up for the vulnerable, the silent and the ones lacking in confidence, guidance and inspiration. 

Digital marketing for beginners and signs of Aspergers syndrome have been no different. 

These two projects have drawn me to work with some of the most incredibly talented people in the world today. We, together draw on our experiences to help the ordinary people in the world do extraordinary things in both their personal and professional lives. 

That’s what we will continue to do for ever more… 

Because we all deserve a life we can get proud of. 

Find out how we are supporting sole traders and home start up businesses in reaching bigger audiences and generating more sales: https://digitalmarketingforbeginners.net

Find out how we are transforming young Aspergers lives and encouraging careers and adventure at https://signs-of-aspergers-syndrome.org.

Thanks for reading. 

Michelle Hatcher 

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The #1 Surprising Fact About Non Verbal Autism You Will Be Glad You Knew

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Have you come away from your child’s diagnosis assessment and wonder if they had got it wrong? Have you ever wanted to challenge being told your child won’t talk? Have you ever wanted to prove doctors wrong, because you know your child better than they do?

WELL YOU WERE RIGHT. NOW, HERE’S WHY…

In this video I share with you one surprising fact about non verbal autism that will encourage you to think again. It is THE #1 surprising fact about non verbal autism you will be glad you knew!

The current situation in the world means that more and more ASD children are not getting the support and teachers they need in schools as the demand for assistance reaches crisis point in many of our communities. This is bad for our children because they will never get the encouragement they deserve to achieve anything in life, thus meaning a future of loneliness, poverty and depression.

So these are our choices;

  • We take teaching into our OWN hands…
  • OR we say ‘blow it’ and leave our kids in the care of incompetent States. So, what’s it going to be for YOUR child?

This is what I need YOU to do to ensure your child does NOT get left behind as another failed statistic;

Watch the video, subscribe to our weekly news broadcast, download the FREE 3 STEP GUIDE TO EXPANDING YOUR CHILD’S SOCIAL ABILITIES and get set to change history, bring back your hard earned retirement cash and see your children’s independence become a thing of reality!

Don’t forget to pick up your FREE paper on how CBT can help your child expand their social and communcation skills with immediate effect…. https://michellehatchermedia.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/3-Step-Guide-To-Expanding-Your-Childs-Social-Abilities.pdf

 

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Five CBT & Autism Q and A’s

What is CBT?

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy for Autism has been widely researched over the last 30 years seeing such courses which claim to practically cure young people of Autism. Of course CBT alone does not. There is no cure for Autism. However, with careful intervention of a number of alternative therapies, diet and lifestyle, there can always be a significant change in the individual.

I believe that Autism is a disorder which is the result of the environment the person is in at that moment. Shift the environment and the traits of Autism ‘disappear.’ The key to the ultimate intervention is the environment. All the other methods and strategies simply support rather than remedy.

CBT was designed to help people with post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and eating disorders such as anorexia. Yet the intervening CBT with Autism is still a relatively new concept which is being found to be highly beneficial with many clients and their families.

Who will it help?

CBT will help your child enormously if they fit into the following criteria;

  1. They are of an age where they can be responsible for their own actions (for example, from the age of 8 upwards)
  2. They have at best some reasonable control over their behaviour
  3. That behaviour is led by a thought process.
  4. They have the following disorders: Asperger’s syndrome and/or high functioning Autism.

Cognitive behavioural therapy focuses on how someone thinks and encourages them to identify negative thought patterns which cause unwanted behaviour. For your child, CBT can be highly effective for helping ease meltdowns and outbursts; shouting, swearing, pathological demand avoidance syndrome and communication.

CBT helps people who have social and communication issues and also those who would benefit from developing these skills for a more rewarding lifestyle. It looks at how we think and who we behave in relation to how we interact with others and how our behaviours affect people and society around us.

Will it help my child to cope with society?

Where people are keen to develop a sense of being so that they can fit into society, then CBT is a very good place to start. With my son, Jon, he found CBT very effective as his belief was not to stand out from the crowd as being ‘different’ but the desire to want to fit into the world and live as normally as possible. With many young people on the spectrum who have a capacity to think outside their Autism, there is a notable wish to be accepted in society, therefore CBT is another pathway that is open to them to make the transitions needed. CBT gives these people the right tools to help them overcome situations which they would ordinarily find troublesome and stressful.

Can it help stop meltdowns?

We covered thought processes and keep a though log in the first part of the Masterclass course. This is an exercise which is widely used to help people understand the link between thoughts and behaviours. We looked schemas and negative thought patterns which are often the cause misinterpretation thus leading to meltdowns. In my book ‘Extraordinary Journey’ I talk about the time when my son Jon, had the most incredible meltdown in a café which had been triggered by his misinterpretation of my mother’s actions. A meltdown that would have been avoided had he realised what she was doing.

CBT can help enormously with the following:

  • Anger and aggressive behaviour
  • Anxiety
  • Depression in teenagers
  • Social difficulties
  • Self-harm
  • Repetitive behaviour
  • Communication problems

Where Can I Find Out More?

You can find out more by downloading our FREE guide here which covers signs and symptoms of Autism, Asperger’s syndrome and early intevention. Or you can sign up below if you want to join our Member’s Only Unleashing The Positive Masterclass

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Michelle Hatcher is the author of the Progress Pentagon parenting courses and founder of the best-selling : Unleashing The Positive Mind Masterclass. She is a certified CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, mother of 15 year old Jon who has Autism and PDA and certified Life Coach.

She is also a member of the Complimentary Medical Association, the International Alliance of Holistic Therapists
and The Association of Integrative Psychology.  Her autobiography, How To… uncovers the secrets of Autism and how to overcome it plus it tracks her life as a mother of an Autistic child, how she developed her best-selling courses using CBT and NLP with Autism. She is also a public speaker on Autism Awareness.

She lives in Wiltshire with husband Nick, son, Jon and three cats; Apple, Missy and Augusta.

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Good mental health parenting Autism

I received a very interesting idea from a reader this morning who wanted some guidance on mental health for parents and carers of Autism.  For something which is not often talked about, I was very very keen to get my thoughts and ideas down on the old electronic paper. So let’s think about this concept for today’s blog post.

How is your mental health and more importantly, how is it going to be over the summer holidays?

As parents, many schools would argue that rest is for those giving care within the home during the hours of 9am and 3pm (if you’re in the UK.) And they would be right, or would they?

Raising a child with Autism or any other disorder for that matter can be tough, and schools fail to appreciate that. It is emotionally draining as well as financially exhausting. Parents, like myself in the past, will often forgo visiting public places and not take part in normal activities simply to avoid the embarrassment and stress of a meltdown.  When Jon was much younger I would feel like having a meltdown myself. Starting a family day out with high hopes would often be thrown by the curbside due to shouts, swearing, punching and kicking only to return home half an hour later.

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Jon aged 6

Parents can feel as though they are being held prisoner in their own homes on sunny days at weekends because of their children’s Autism. As much as there have been campaigns up and down the country for Autism friendly parks and places to visit, sometimes, it is just the getting to these destinations which is more than families can bear.

So what can we do about it? I have come up with some solutions which I hope you will find useful to stop summer passing you by from behind a closed door. They are good for your child and good for keeping your mental health in excellent shape during the coming weeks;

  • A kick around in the park with a ball; Ok, so this might sound like a no brainer but a vast open space where there is a minimal chance of traffic and no noise from other children can be the best way to spend an afternoon. Jon would make immediate enemies in the busy playground as he would sit, mumbling to himself or follow other children around when they clearly did not want to be followed! Jon was happiest when walking around a nature reserve, or park with a duck pond and trees to hug. If I thought about taking him to an indoor adventureland, I was usually asking for trouble. National Trust places are great for having vast open estates of rambling woods and fields to run across, and because you need to be a member, they don’t get hugely busy during the week. English Heritage is another good one. Sporting ruins of castles, (just remember English Heritage buildings tend not to have ceilings) they are great places to roam.
  • Weekday Outings; When Jon was smaller and not glued to the teenage laptop years, I would take him out all over the place during the week. Of course, during term times this can be very tricky, but even during the holidays on weekdays and on slightly cloudier days, places tend to be less busy. One of Jon’s favourite things was to ride on trains. Living close to London at the time, I would spend the entire day riding up and down on the DLR. It didn’t matter to me. If he was happy, then that was fine by me, and that brings me on to the next point….
  • Be flexible; I found the best thing is always to be flexible and leave the days full of errands for another time. Go wherever your child wants to go. Even if it means spending three hours in Warhammer or Early Learning Centre. I spent days in the latter, often taking meals in with me. Don’t be stressed out before you step out the door or your child’s switch in mood will only make you feel worse.
  • Have a list; I would keep a list in my head of places to go. If you’re not keen about keeping stuff in your head, make a map and put flags on it for all the places you know you can go or you can take your child to so you have back up plans. Jon would change his mind at an instant, usually as we were going out the door. It is a good thing to refer to pinned up in the kitchen. With Jon’s PDA, his mind would shift violently so much so that if I didn’t come up with an alternative destination in five seconds, he would refuse to leave the house. You might not think having a list is needed in your household, but it will make you feel better if it’s there anyway.
  • Avoid visiting family; You might think it’s a good idea but seeing too much of your family will only give them the chance to give out well meaning advice which might set you on edge. For me at least, visiting family was often more stressful.

Getting out in the fresh air even for half an hour will help keep your sanity running smoothly.  Talk to your GP or the school or if you prefer, call the National Autistic Society Helpline if you’re concerned about how you feel mentally. Bringing up a child on the spectrum is normally what everyone else can’t begin to imagine. They will try to help, although it might not feel as though they are helping at all. Keep them at a distance if you think they will make you feel worse.  And always, always make time for yourself. Even if it’s a trip to the supermarket for an hour.

You are not alone. Being the parent or carer of a person with Autism can really suck sometimes. But that’s ok. You’re doing a brilliant job. Just be kind to yourself and give yourself breaks during the day during the school holidays. Even if it is just to go sit in another room with a cup of tea. No one is going to tell you off.

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get your child's social and comunication skills up to speed today!Michelle Hatcher is the author of the Progress Pentagon parenting courses and founder of the best-selling : Unleashing The Positive Mind Masterclass. She is a certified CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, mother of 15 year old Jon who has Autism and PDA and certified Life Coach.

She is also a member of the Complimentary Medical Association, the International Alliance of Holistic Therapists
and The Association of Integrative Psychology.  Her autobiography, How To… uncovers the secrets of Autism and how to overcome it plus it tracks her life as a mother of an Autistic child, how she developed her best-selling courses using CBT and NLP with Autism. She is also a public speaker on Autism Awareness.

She lives in Wiltshire with husband Nick, son, Jon and three cats; Apple, Missy and Augusta.