Its an answer I trot out almost to the word… We offer courses, books and step by step guides to help people find independence and happiness in life.
Then I stop myself…
It’s what we do but not WHY we do it.
Years ago I started my first business. I focused on being the voice between those in society who couldn’t speak and the agencies who controlled the environment they lived in.
Because I knew what it was like to get ignored.
And this is how it began…
About twenty years ago I lived next door to drug dealers.
I was alone, with a baby and vulnerable and an easy target for entertainment.
I spent the next three years battling with local authorities. I was bullied night and day and the butt of every prank my neighbours put upon me for kicks.
Myself and my baby were spat at in the streets. We put up with loud music night at day, used needles thrown over the fence into my garden.
The worst was having human excrement pushed through my letter box.
Young stoned men using my letter box as a urinal. I had to nail my letter box shut and have another neighbour take my mail first me.
It was the darkest, most frightening three years of my life.
I did eventually get them moved after a long struggle to be heard by the council and the police but little did I realise, it was not over.
They were moved to a property a few streets away. My ordeal didn’t stop. My drugged up neighbours were out for revenge.
Next my car and house were targeted. My car would have its windows smashed almost nightly, eventually my insurance company refused to repair my car yet again and it had to get scrapped. My house was sprayed with graffiti in the middle of the night. My front door kicked repeatedly at night. Sick and urine on my porch.
And why? Because I was a single mother who stood up to them.
Since then each business, venture and project I have seen through has been in favour of the silent ones. The people who lacked support from anyone.
I have stood up for the vulnerable, the silent and the ones lacking in confidence, guidance and inspiration.
Digital marketing for beginners and signs of Aspergers syndrome have been no different.
These two projects have drawn me to work with some of the most incredibly talented people in the world today. We, together draw on our experiences to help the ordinary people in the world do extraordinary things in both their personal and professional lives.
That’s what we will continue to do for ever more…
Because we all deserve a life we can get proud of.
Back in those days, brilliant minds like Andrew Carnegie (pictured), Napoleon Hill, Henry Ford and so on, started to look carefully at the people in the world who were successful, and those who weren’t.
Henry Ford might be better known for making Ford cars, but did you know he didn’t start building this global empire until he was 45 years old? Yet for much of his life, he was a deep thinker, a philanthropist and a curious questioner about life and the subconscious mind. By the time, he got into the car industry, he had already realised HOW to make a success of it. All he had to do was take his idea and bring it into reality.
He was his own psychologist and if you ever get to hear or read any of his personal development stuff, take it all in. His name I cursed a few times in my life (I am the former disgruntled owner of 3 Fiestas and an Escort) as a motorist, yet I didn’t really have an appreciation of the man until now.
But we are not here today to talk about old car manufacturers. We are here to talk about WHY we fail.
Did you know that failure is down to two simple principles? Only two. There are dozens more but these are the two that are the barriers which stop a man or woman dead in their tracks.
Trying too hard.
Lack of confidence to complete the task.
Let’s look at the first of these;
We try too hard to succeed. Anything.
We literally work ourselves OUT of winning. This is where man falls down. We are conditioned to believe from childhood that to succeed is to work as hard as you can. Literally work yourself into the ground. Yet this is the worst way to succeed. Let’s try something here: where you are sitting right now, put your hands out in from of you so you can see the palms of your hands. Now repeat after me whilst looking at them, ‘these hands will only ever earn so much money.’
Ok, so that sounds like a pretty negative affirmation for a blog that’s meant to be about personal development!
Now, put your hands on your head, comfortably and repeat this at least twice, out loud, ‘what is in my hands now can earn as much money as I ever want.’
Your mind has unlimited potential. If man only just trusted that his brilliant mind will guide him to his fortune, then we wouldn’t work so hard. A clever man once said ‘did you know that working for money is the worst way to get it?’ If we really used our subconscious mind we could have anything we liked. If you look around you right now, everything you have, you once thought about, subconsciously. If it isn’t much around you then you need to shift your thoughts from negative to positive.
Remember: everything in life (action) will always cause a reflection (reaction.) You have heard of cause and effect? Well, this is where this comes from. Every movement, emotion, action, event, thought somewhere in the world will cause an opposite reaction.
Now let’s look at the other principle: man, has a fundamental lack of confidence.
Over the tens of thousands of years that man has been toying with the world, nature and wondering if there is another life other than this one, he has been beaten every time he has tried to accomplish anything. We tend to put our failings to the talk that we hear from around us. We allow people close to us to literally talk us out of what we want to do. ‘Oh that won’t work, do something else,’ or ‘don’t be daft, you’ll never be able to do that,’ and to that we say ‘yeah, I guess you’re right.’ And on that we abandon everything we desire.
This is where our lack of confidence comes from.
Bob Proctor is another excellent businessman and mentor and has been studying psychology and personal development since the early 60’s. In his seminars, he says ‘failure is down to the conditioning of one’s own self-belief. It is never down to their potential.’ In other words, if you fail at something such as; you fail a job interview, you fail to ask that girl out on a date, you fail to win a round of golf, it is because your conditioning at that one moment failed you. Yet there is nothing in your potential that says you will fail again. Nothing.
To improve our status, we need to change our conditioning. That means jumping right outside of society and doing things differently. We aren’t taught to use our brains at school. We’re not taught to use the power of our subconscious mind to bring what we want into fruition. We think that to earn money we have to work hard. Wrong. We think that the best thing to do is have one well paid job to succeed and everything will be ok. Wrong again. To win, question everything.
Question why your parents did the things they did.
Question why you learned the lessons of life you learned as a child
Question why you have always struggled with things like money, where did your teachings of such things come from?
We are taught that we have to have a good education to do well in life. Wrong. I mentioned Bob Proctor earlier, he is a self-made multi-millionaire yet dropped out of high school at
the age of 16 and never took a qualification in his life. Earl Nightingale, the godfather of personal development grew up in tent city with his mother. They were homeless and broke. This man really knew what poverty was. Yet he too became a millionaire and was known the world over for his speeches on motivation, development and wisdom.
These men, as well as many others questioned the world we lived in.
This is what my suggestions are to you to improve your status, wealth, wellbeing and future, and THEY DO WORK..
Take up swimming, yoga or walking – anything that increased your heart rate yet trains your subconscious mind to focus on movement of the body while you clear your mind of negative thoughts. Do this every morning and you will function better and produce more positive results for the rest of the day.
Read: books – as many as you can on personal development, psychology and so on. As much as I do believe in reading modern day works, go for the literature published at the turn of the 20th Century. Napoleon Hill, Earl Nightingale, Andrew Carnegie. These men were deep thinkers, giants in business and who were questioning everything LONG before everyone else was. They were the pioneers in personal development.
Write a blog on your thoughts and discoveries at last 3 times a week. Build up a following and before you know it, you will have advertisers wanting to rent web space off you – wow! Where do that income come from?
Meditate every day and spend half an hour listening to guidance visualisation tapes on YouTube. Develop your creative imagination – the most important yet least used facet in the world today.
Write affirmations on your bathroom wall. Ask and you will receive, knock and the door will open unto you. Seek and ye shall find.
One last thing before I leave you to your new-found routine… don’t expect things to happen overnight, BUT DO expect things to happen.