One of things I love most about building an information website such as this, is the amount of content I have share with you about how I have dealt with my debilitating M.E and how you too can start to live a better, happier life again.
There are plenty of websites around that will give you all the information you want on how your condition interacts with you, how to deal with it in terms of diet, exercise and so on, but if all the time you have a mind-set that suggests to you, you won’t get any better than you are now, then none of the above is likely to work.
This is why I decided to put together these simple strategies to help fellow sufferers like you to live a more productive, healthier and happier existence.
Now, I won’t tell you what pills to take or even what specialists to go and see, but what I CAN share with you is how I started to change my way of seeing my condition. Once I changed the way I thought about it, the more active, happier and more confident I felt.
Changing the system and starting again
This is going to sound a bit weird but one of the best ways to get a grasp on changing the way you think is actually changing the way your system of thinking operates.
Ok, here is your brain:
Yes, ok, so this one is a bit multi-coloured but you get the general idea.
Now, your brain tells you what to do – what literally, whether it’s consciously or subconsciously.
Most of the time, we are no aware of what our brain is telling us to do. At the moment, your brain is currently telling you to read this article because it is keen to learn more about living with M.E (hopefully.)
There are, of course, lots of occasions when your brain is telling you to act a certain way or at least RE act in a certain way when we are presented with a situation which is challenging. Or at least, unfamiliar.
The brain also will conduct little experiments on you. It will give you feelings, generate emotions and set in place a default action or reaction to what ever it is you are faced with.
M.E and the Rest of the World.
The internet, as we have already talked about is a wondrous invention. It allows us to scan the world for data, content and advice on all sorts of things. Remember the days of going to the library to find a book on the subject you wanted to read about? It meant going out in the wind and the rain, getting the bus, walking, getting cold, spending money, eeek! The stuff we used to do! But now, the internet can take us to where ever we want it to, to find advice, information and help.
Having said all of that, not everything we find is true, or at LEAST, true for US. Particularly when it comes to a chronic illness like M.E and CFS (which ever way you are happy to call it) what we find on the web can be somewhat misleading.
My point here is that the net is very good at allowing ourselves to get bogged down with how everyone else is feeling. We use social media more than we ever used letters, faxes, telephone calls to communicate with each other, so the ability to tap into each others lives, feelings and emotions is much easier than it ever used to be. Now, people can talk about how they are feeling everywhere, in groups across the world. The upside of this of course is that we can reach out to one another and advise and help every easily and effectively.
The DOWNSIDE is that what we tend to do is use this information as a thing called ‘association.’ By this I mean our brains store these pieces of information on file in case we might need them in the future.
Doesn’t sound so bad? Well, it can be a dangerous thing. If one person tells someone how awful they feel because of X and Y, then we store the emotion of X and Y to use at a later date. This is why when someone says ‘Oh, I’ve got this really awful bug,’ and another says ‘Oh dear’ The recipient of that statement’s brain says he or she ‘that’s going to be bad news, she’ll never get over that.’
Remember: Most of the time, the way you see something is a reflection of how the world sees it.
It’s All in the News
Our brains are very good at keeping bad news rather than good. It’s our default position as humans. It goes back to the age of cavemen when we were permanently on the look out for animals and other cavemen to attack us. We gather bad things and store them far readily than good. If someone associates something bad about something else, then that information sticks on our brain.
I believe that to change this system of thinking can be revolutionary to your life. We’re probably not just talking about the effect of chronic illnesses here as this could relate to anyone, anywhere.
My belief is if you change the way your brain receives information and stores it, it can change the way you act and react.
I talk more about this in my FREE guide to living a happier and more contented life with M.E/CFS. If you would like to explore with me the possibilities of helping your own symptoms by changing the way you think about them, then please email me TODAY your email address and I will personally send you the guide straight away.
Good luck and happy health