Today’s inspirational news flash is that actually, we’re all the same, even the greatest people on the planet. In mind, body and spirit, we breathe, walk, talk and search for a deeper meaning on the same level. Regardless of where we are, what country we’re currently in and what outfit we drew from the wardrobe that morning.
Star of the recent ITV hit, Mr Selfridge, Jeremy Piven talked to The Gentleman’s Journal back in May 2016 about life, London and where he wants to be in ten years time. As with any of these casual ‘we bumped into…and chatted’ interviews, the reader is usually left with a half drunk cup of coffee and a wonder of what life is like on ‘the other side.’ I usually flick through such star struck conversations with a slight whiff of curious nonchalance especially if the undertone is ‘you’re life is never going to be as good as ours,’ but I found myself reading the article with a growing interest and it got me thinking about that elusive game our monkey subconscious minds play with stuff like this; perception.
17 foot tall mentor, Tony Robbins, booms across a stage in front of several thousand followers about how our minds like to generalise everything. From the colour of skin to the types of sneakers won by a rap star, we just love to hang out with our like-minded unconsciousness and rant on about how fantastic our lives would be if we were this guy or this model slinking along a red carpet somewhere. I hate to tell you chaps, it ain’t like that. Mr Piven attempts to engage with TGJ during the interview about perception; what is real and what appears to be real. Sadly, it is at the point where the interviewer decides to break rapport with the actor and end the interview in the nicest possible way which I found to be an enormous shame; just when the conversation was starting to get interesting.
I guess the gripe I have here is that it appeared that the interviewer had a perception that the readers would have had enough of Mr P at this point and therefore, the article finishes. Yet there are a good reasonable amount of fascinated challengers and thinkers out there who would have loved to have heard the truer side of the story. What is it we’re all looking for? What is the greater being we want to be at one with? As Abraham Maslow believed, it is those of us who meet our basic human needs for survival who reach higher to self-actualisation. We study, we learn, we become or just want to find out more about reality, or what we perceive as reality.
Mr Piven in quite right; the fact that two people who have never met, can have a conversation heading towards intimacy yet be thousands of miles away across continents. When put into plain English, it is very surreal. Yet is this just another example of the human mind reaching out to connect with another on a deeper level? I would certainly agree with that being the desired result every time I smile at a stranger in the street.
Mr Piven points out in the interview that age is not something we should be looking for in each other (another perception in society is that if we don’t look young or fit enough, we’ve proverbially had it.) For me, I have battled with a long-held and much nurtured belief, that as I didn’t do so well during my 20’s, I should be hanging up my mountain boots in my 40’s. The perception we need to focus on is to strive for your goals at any point in your life, and this needs to be the image you run towards, no matter what. (By the way, million-dollar motivational giant Tony Robbins is 56. That certainly makes me feel better.)
As I stepped off a plane from Seattle a few days ago, I reflected back on the long weekend I had spent with 60 or so Americans who, like me, had gathered to listen to Dr Matt James and colleagues talk about NLP and Huna; the ancient teachings of the people of Hawaii. Up until a week ago, I had believed that the U.S was a magical land (as I still think it is.) For a humble Brit, I had grown up believing that it was the land were dreams came true and that everyone was ‘sorted’ in the States. America, for me, has been the big brother I never had to look up to. For me, America set the standard, and I followed. My perception of the people in the U.S updated, I am pleased to say. I was fortunate enough to make some lasting friendships with my new-found cousins from the free world. Their impressions on the one and only Brit in the camp, lasting and cherished.
Coming back home I realised that people, no matter where they are from and how successful they are in their lives, are all human beings with dreams, fears of failing and desires to connect with other humans. My weekend in America exposed me to real emotions, real change and strong spirit. Something that in the U.K, we still haven’t got to grips with. Stepping back to TGJ interview for a moment, I felt that Mr Piven in the interview with TGJ was looking for a connection; a conversation at a deeper level; an image of a more intellectual plane, but somehow appeared to be fading with each passing line.
My thought for today is this; the next time to gasp at the latest front page of The Enquirer, or judge a more mature star for piling on the odd pound or two or for making a bad wardrobe choice that day, stop. Realise if you can, that these people we see on our screens and in our papers are just like us; human beings who have a voice, who have thoughts, and if we let them speak fully, we might just learn something.
Here is recent interview I found on radio in the U.S which you might like to watch, oh and Mr P, if you’re reading this, there will always be those who are jealous of what others have and to make themselves significant, they will jump up and down in the only way they know how. Feel sorry for them Mr P. It’s only envy for what you have. And that’s the best spin on it….