Day 2 after Scoliosis corrective surgery

Jon has Autism and is probably one of very few children who have gone through this massive life changing surgery.

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Jon on day two after surgery and discharge from intensive care

I can still hear the voices of disapproval in my head and from outside. why bother? Jon is brilliant, clever and smart. Why not let him have the same opportunities as any other kid?

The struggle felt by him has been ten fold above anything else. a girl, slightly younger than him also had the exact same operation the same day as Jon. She is a non autistic bright and happy girl who was keen to sit up whilst still in Intensive care. Jon on the other hand was grumpy telling everyone from a loud voice he wanted to die. I, his flaking mother could do nothing else but feel helpless and guilty.

Jon’s scoliosis had been severe shortening his life to barely 30 years old if he had not gone through this ordeal. His double curvature had been enough to eventually crush his heart and lungs meaning the last few years of his short life would have been spent confined to a wheelchair.

Day two after husband surgery and back on the ward was a platform for Jon to feel more comfortable with the staff and doctors around him that he could shout and swear. Yet it was also on this day that he stood up from his bed. Got up on his feet and successfully transferred  himself from bed to chair and back again. despite the tears and frustration felt by me over the last three days since his admission, I was clapping with delight at this big step towards recovery.

I sit at his bedside and watch him sleep after a wide awake night from all of us on the ward the night before.

It feels now it’s been worth the struggle with school, insurance company, hospital and family to get him here.

 

 

Unleash The Positive Mind e-course is awarded top ratings on Udemy

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But there is more in store for this amazing parent and author. Read on to find out more.

The new and exciting Unleash The Positive Mind 2 hours e-course on Udemy focusing on CBT methods with Autism has, this week, been awarded 4.5 stars out of 5. Created by CBT and NLP therapist, Michelle Hatcher, she has worked hard on her research on communication skills over the last 10 years so she’s had little time to stop and reflect. With a #1 Best Seller on Amazon already making heads turn and the launch of the official course handbook, we caught up with her on her recent successes to ask why, where and what was the inspiration behind this revoluntionary course.

 

Following the mad rush to enrol by hundreds of students in its first 72 hour launch, the Unleash The Positive Mind course was expected by its creator, Michelle Hatcher, to do well, but says the mother and CBT Therapist, she was still taken by surprise. Yet her goal isn’t to stop there. Next week, she and Jon embark on some pretty life changing events…

It was quite extraordinary. I knew there was a call for parent training in Autism but we didn’t expect such popularity. It means that a lot of hard work and effort has paid off. I am delighted. My next venture is to document Jon’s forthcoming corrective spinal surgery due to his Scoliosis through a YouTube series. The idea is to do two things; one, to enable other parents out there with ASD children going through corrective surgery, and two, to help me through a pretty dark and emotional time. I never forget that I’m a parent too! It will be good therapy for me as well as helping others all over the world.

The short course which focuses on only a handful of carefully restructured CBT methods, has been an incredible help to many families already, encouraging once non-verbal children to quickly pick up communication skills which had been otherwise, put aside.  Michelle says,

I have always had the belief that some barriers in Autism are down to a deep lack of self-trust. Once children found an ability to do something well, the progression from there on is natural. Many parents experience their child’s frustration in not being able to be heard. It can be hugely disappointing for the parents when children move into their own closed worlds, feeling safe there.

The fact that families could see results by implementing some core strategies in communication is hugely encouraging, but it still has to be said that there is still no cure for Autism. Michelle Hatcher, mother of 15 year old Autistic Jon, whom she bases much of her work and research, said,

We must be realistic in our mind set that there may never be a cure for Autism, however, the methods I worked on with my own son have indeed, worked. Taking these methods beyond our own parameters, I’ve been able to work personally with other parents and got the same positive results.

So why is it down to the parents then to teach the skills that specialist teachers and ASD units should be doing? I found Michelle Hatcher had a firm answer to this.

The key when working with Autism is not to work against it but work with it. One of the things I discovered was that a child with Autism has a very powerful bond with their primary caregiver. Thus meaning that they see this person as their lead teacher in life. So in that case, why not just train this caregiver to teach the child what they need to learn? For me, it was perfectly simple. All I had to do as a parent was to teach my son the skills that the school wasn’t teaching him, for one reason or another.

Yet perhaps the one thing that does stick out from the success of this new e-course for parents is that schools are letting our children down. Does this mean that this course will highlight the failings once more of our own educational system?

That may well be the case, but I do think that for parents, this isn’t new news. Parents for many years have felt frustrations of their own when it comes to the relationship between school and home. This course is merely handing back to the parent the dignity and importance where some schools have undermined that in the past.

You can find out more about the e-course Unleash The Positive Mind here and download the official course handbook here. 

Follow Michelle on YouTube here and subscribe to her Autism Parenting series and follow her and Jon LIVE from Monday 28th of November ‘Correcting the Scoliosis’

 

 

Parenting Autism: How To Get A Diagnosis For Your Child

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Getting a diagnosis for Autism can be a very stressful time for the parents. You have probably spent weeks, months and possibly years wondering if you’re going loopy or that there is actually, something wrong with your child. Now you have got this far, you want to know what’s going to happen next.

There is no medical test to prove whether your child has Autism or not. It is not like testing to see if they have a fractured toe. It is rather a process of elimination. You, as their carer will be asked a lot of questions about family history, environment, school (if appropriate) plus they will want you to give in as much detail as you can your child’s developmental progress as you see it.

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There will be, for the paediatrician or child development professional a checklist they will go through to determine if there are signs of Autism. Depending on how old your child is (as they can see many teenagers as well as toddlers) they will perform some role playing with them, chat to them, ask them to engage in a board game, play with toys and so on.

What he or she is looking for here is interaction, imagination and communication. These are the three areas which are particularly affected by Autism. After a few weeks (possibly 3 to 6 meetings with you and your child) they will offer a report for you to go through. It will also offer a diagnosis. You have plenty of time to read through it thoroughly to see if you agree. There will be some information on suggested support interventions to help your child develop the areas where they appear to struggle.

One of the main points in this film is that you don’t have to go with the first opinion you’re offered. If you are not happy with the diagnosis, ask to be seen by someone else.

One of the things that parents tend to do is rely heavily on what they are told by a group of professionals and ignore the questions piling up in their minds. It is very easy to feel as though you are being swept along with the tide. Along the line you may find it all very overwhelming; you though your child’s life was going one way and not suddenly it is going in a different direction. It is sad but parents can tend to be forgotten about during the process. It is vital that you talk to someone when you feel swamped. You can call either the Young Minds helpline or, if you wish, the National Autistic Society helpline. They are open 24 hours a day are specially trained to help with any worries you have confidentially.

The more supported YOU feel, the better the outcome for you and your child. So do please remember to look after yourself too.  Watch the following video on the subject of getting a diagnosis and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

If you like this post, please subscribe to ensure you never miss an post! I will be covering all aspects of Autism from diagnosis to Autism in toddlers, school and KS1, KS2, KS3 and beyond, transition to adulthood, social environments, hospital stays and how to cope with them, employment and independent living.

Don’t forget to enrol in our FREE Udemy course called ‘Unleash The Positive Mind’ a short, but amazingly effective course to help you become the best teacher and power parent for your child. Take the course and you will find your child’s social and communication skills will rocket, simply by using the easy to follow methods. The course is for you and your child to complete. It provides easy to follow videos, downloads plus games and role playing making the learning process fun for both of you!

ENROL HERE!!

michelle hatcher's powering parenting for autismMichelle Hatcher is an Autism researcher and campaigner, consultant CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, Accredited Life Coach and mother of an Autistic teenager.

She is also a member of the Association of Integrative Psychology, the Institute of Leasdership and Management and the International Association of Neuro-linguistic Programming and Coaching. She has studied Autism and childhood conditions over over 15 years. She is the author of the #1 Best Selling parenting book: How To Turn Your Child’s Autism Around And Save Money. She currently conducts Autism parenting classes along with her practice. She lives in Wiltshire in the UK with her son, her family and three cats. 

 

 

 

The ‘How to Power Parent Autism’ series lanches on YouTube

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We are completely tickled pink to announce my new YouTube channel which opened its studio for the first time this week.

On the channel, I will bring to you every week my best tips and advice on parenting Autism. I shall also be using it help reach as many parents as I can across the world directly so we can all work together to support each other, where ever we are!

I shall be bringing you short talking head videos on everything from social skills to getting up in the morning! I am looking forward to sharing all my personal and professional tricks and methods with you, to help you enjoy life and create a happier existence for you and your family.

I know living with an Autistic child can be challenging at the best of times, therefore I think you will find my channel warm, friendly and welcoming. I also hope you will be able to come away with some great support and advice too!

Here is a quick taster of what’s coming up in the series.

The topics we will be covering in our short, bite size videos will be:

  • FROM EARLY WARNING SIGNS TO DIANOSIS
  • EASY STEPS TO PARENTING AUTISM
  • HOW TO PARENT TEENAGERS AND AUTISM
  • SIMPLE TRANSITION STEPS FROM SCHOOL TO COLLEGE

Each series will include no more than five videos each so you won’t have to endlessly search through miles of video to find exactly what you’re looking for!

I look forward to you joining me! Don’t forget to like and share our films and subscribe too!

See you there!

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Want to get in touch and know more about my books and courses on parenting Autism? Get in touch at michelle@michellehatchermedia.com

 

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How to turn your child's autism around and save moneyYou can also pick up a copy of Michelle’s #1 best seller How To Turn You Child’s Autism Around And Save Money here:

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Thanks for watching and see you on the course!