Make Your Child’s Return To School Stress Free!

how to get your ASD successfully back to school after the holidays

how to get your ASD child back to school easilyThe end of the Christmas holidays, for many parents of ASD kids can be a blessed relief. The trauma of Christmas with its over stimulus of flashing fairy lights, noise and colour can be hugely confusing and terrifying for our children, that the welcome return of school can be a God send.

But how do you get your child back into the swing of school when their sleep patterns, daily activities and so on have been geared around being at home?

That’s easy!  For a parent like me with an Autistic teenager who also has a pathological aversion to getting up before noon, I have developed a quick and stress free strategy to coax even the most immovable children on the first day back at school! So here we go to ensure your ASD child gets back into the routine of school!

 

 

STEP ONE:

  • Rehearse!  One of the best ways I have enabled my son to get up ready for school on the first day back from any school break is to do a dummy run at least one day before. That way, the stress of waking up at what he decides is an ‘unearthly hour’ will be less anxiety filled for both of you. You might want to try it two days before. Simply remind them in the best way you know how the night before that this is what is going to happen so they can expect it. The key here is to the always try and take the sting out of the event. Gradual build up to something like going back to school will always be easier on everyone in the house!
  • Use small steps! Jon never, and still doesn’t like the idea of having to deal with any event in one hit. So when I need him to get up early and be ready to go somewhere like school, I will walk him through each step of the day, one bit at a time. If I know it is going to be a very intense event for him, I will go through the day half an hour at a time. That way, he knows he can feel calmer throughout the day so that he can focus on what is expected of him. If you’re not going to be physically with him, make sure that anyone who is going to be with him that day (school support, teaching assistant) has a heads up before of what they need to do.
  • Gently Gently! Jon is so much better to coax into doing something if I take the calm approach. There is no point losing my rag with him when I know that time is ticking on and he needs to get going. I have found that there is a much better way of asking him to do something if I word it like this…

‘Jon, if you have your breakfast now, you will be able to watch a few minutes of TV before the school bus arrives..‘ Rather than ‘Jon, you will be late if you don’t hurry up and eat your breakfast’

I find that the latter will only enable him to focus on the most stress making word in that sentence – late – so that won’t help with his stress levels and is more likely to hinder any motivation to want to move. Using word techniques to help people with Autism cope with tasks has been used for over 40 years in methods like NLP, but my particualr favourite is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. It has helped people with all sorts of disorders from Autism to depression, not to mention how to help positive thoughts and keep your child motivated, happy and confident!

I have been using CBT with my son, Jonathan for almost ten years, but I will be honest with you. It has only helped Jon when I have tailored the methods and used the regularly. That’s the secret I have found to CBT. Using it in daily life, or at least a few times a week in activities is the only way to ensure that Jon gets the tools to help himself deal with the anxities of life that comes with Autism.

WHAT YOU CAN DO NEXT….

I would like you to download my FREE paper on how I have used CBT successfully in Jon’s life. I was determined to really get the best out of using techniques like the ABC Model and working with Schemas that I decided to become a qualified CBT Therapist myself.

So here I am, giving you a flying start in helping your child to be confident, independent and successful in social and communcaition skills! I think you will gain an awful lot from the technqiues I cover in this 23 page guide which I have written especially for you. It is completely FREE and the knowledge that I wish someone had told me about when Jon was first diagnosed!

 

 

Parenting Autism: How To Get A Diagnosis For Your Child

how to get a diagnosis for your child

Getting a diagnosis for Autism can be a very stressful time for the parents. You have probably spent weeks, months and possibly years wondering if you’re going loopy or that there is actually, something wrong with your child. Now you have got this far, you want to know what’s going to happen next.

There is no medical test to prove whether your child has Autism or not. It is not like testing to see if they have a fractured toe. It is rather a process of elimination. You, as their carer will be asked a lot of questions about family history, environment, school (if appropriate) plus they will want you to give in as much detail as you can your child’s developmental progress as you see it.

michelle hatcher's powering parenting for autism

There will be, for the paediatrician or child development professional a checklist they will go through to determine if there are signs of Autism. Depending on how old your child is (as they can see many teenagers as well as toddlers) they will perform some role playing with them, chat to them, ask them to engage in a board game, play with toys and so on.

What he or she is looking for here is interaction, imagination and communication. These are the three areas which are particularly affected by Autism. After a few weeks (possibly 3 to 6 meetings with you and your child) they will offer a report for you to go through. It will also offer a diagnosis. You have plenty of time to read through it thoroughly to see if you agree. There will be some information on suggested support interventions to help your child develop the areas where they appear to struggle.

One of the main points in this film is that you don’t have to go with the first opinion you’re offered. If you are not happy with the diagnosis, ask to be seen by someone else.

One of the things that parents tend to do is rely heavily on what they are told by a group of professionals and ignore the questions piling up in their minds. It is very easy to feel as though you are being swept along with the tide. Along the line you may find it all very overwhelming; you though your child’s life was going one way and not suddenly it is going in a different direction. It is sad but parents can tend to be forgotten about during the process. It is vital that you talk to someone when you feel swamped. You can call either the Young Minds helpline or, if you wish, the National Autistic Society helpline. They are open 24 hours a day are specially trained to help with any worries you have confidentially.

The more supported YOU feel, the better the outcome for you and your child. So do please remember to look after yourself too.  Watch the following video on the subject of getting a diagnosis and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

If you like this post, please subscribe to ensure you never miss an post! I will be covering all aspects of Autism from diagnosis to Autism in toddlers, school and KS1, KS2, KS3 and beyond, transition to adulthood, social environments, hospital stays and how to cope with them, employment and independent living.

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michelle hatcher's powering parenting for autismMichelle Hatcher is an Autism researcher and campaigner, consultant CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, Accredited Life Coach and mother of an Autistic teenager.

She is also a member of the Association of Integrative Psychology, the Institute of Leasdership and Management and the International Association of Neuro-linguistic Programming and Coaching. She has studied Autism and childhood conditions over over 15 years. She is the author of the #1 Best Selling parenting book: How To Turn Your Child’s Autism Around And Save Money. She currently conducts Autism parenting classes along with her practice. She lives in Wiltshire in the UK with her son, her family and three cats. 

 

 

 

The ‘How to Power Parent Autism’ series lanches on YouTube

michelle hatcher media launches youtube channel

We are completely tickled pink to announce my new YouTube channel which opened its studio for the first time this week.

On the channel, I will bring to you every week my best tips and advice on parenting Autism. I shall also be using it help reach as many parents as I can across the world directly so we can all work together to support each other, where ever we are!

I shall be bringing you short talking head videos on everything from social skills to getting up in the morning! I am looking forward to sharing all my personal and professional tricks and methods with you, to help you enjoy life and create a happier existence for you and your family.

I know living with an Autistic child can be challenging at the best of times, therefore I think you will find my channel warm, friendly and welcoming. I also hope you will be able to come away with some great support and advice too!

Here is a quick taster of what’s coming up in the series.

The topics we will be covering in our short, bite size videos will be:

  • FROM EARLY WARNING SIGNS TO DIANOSIS
  • EASY STEPS TO PARENTING AUTISM
  • HOW TO PARENT TEENAGERS AND AUTISM
  • SIMPLE TRANSITION STEPS FROM SCHOOL TO COLLEGE

Each series will include no more than five videos each so you won’t have to endlessly search through miles of video to find exactly what you’re looking for!

I look forward to you joining me! Don’t forget to like and share our films and subscribe too!

See you there!

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3 ways to a stress free summer

As we draw closer to the end of term, your plans for the next six weeks might involve going away for a family holiday. Yet for us ASD parents, the thought of attempting to get your child out of the house calmly will be filling you with dread. However, it’s time to breathe out for a moment, I have come up with three good solutions which will take the edge of the stress of a relaxing holiday! Read on to find out…

 

This is what I call The Extraordinary Travel Triangle.

The extraordinary travel triangle

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I shall talk you through the three sides so let’s get going!

 

PLAN

Can’t say this enough. You know what it’s like. You want to be spontaneous whilst away on your hols but you can’t with an ASD child. So plan everything as far in advance as you possibly can. I usually talk Jon through where we’re going the minute it’s been booked and give him regular updates. I post pictures of the hotel, destination, places we’re going to visit on his wall in his bedroom so he can see them every day. I also give him website addresses to look places up. It takes the surprise out of the holiday but it means that your child, like Jon, is well up to speed with what exactly is going to happen!

 

PROVIDE

When travelling, (and I still do this) I have always made sure that there is enough with me to take care of every possibility. As ASD mums and dads, we never gave up the tissues, baby wipes and bottles for our children, no matter how old they got, so take more than enough than you need when going on holiday, even on day trips. Provide entertainment in the car for easy distractions (from traffic and hold ups) and don’t worry about them being plugged in to whatever gadget it is they are in to, what you are trying to avoid is stress and overload. Meltdowns are the last thing you and your child want to experience so prep to avoid these. Make sure you are travelling at quieter times, visiting places when it will be less busy too. I often take Jon out of school (with permission) and go away during the week instead of weekends. Make the first day of your holiday a chill out day and let your child adjust into the hotel or wherever you are staying. Jon would have to check out the bathrooms first and often spending lots of time sitting. That’s ok too. You may feel that you are designing the whole holiday around your child but that’s ok. A less stressed child equals a less stressed you.

 

POWER

Only go to theme parks and resorts if your child loves going to such places otherwise, don’t do it. Just because everyone else takes their children to Thorpe Park or Alton Towers doesn’t mean you have to too. If your child finds such places too stressful, just don’t go. Jon can’t stand loud noise and crowds of screaming children, so that rules out any theme parks and places for us, full stop. But that’s ok. If your child wants to wander around a museum full of old aircraft instead, then that’s good. Letting your child take the lead on holiday is far from giving in to them for the sake of a holiday without the meltdowns. It’s ok to have your holiday around your child. Jon hates beach holidays and gets very bored lounging around by a pool. That might be heaven to me but it can’t be helped. I would much rather Jon had a good time away than have tantrums because we don’t want to do the same things as him.

 

So the key here is let them have control of the things that make them happy on holiday. You will find you are less anxious and stressed if your child is having a good time. Holidays are best spent when you are doing something they enjoy doing. That might involve sitting on the floor in the hotel room. Dive into whatever your child wants to do and take the moment given to you to find out more about your child. You will never stop learning about them. Holidays are a good time to focus on this, so have some fun!

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get your child's social and comunication skills up to speed today!Michelle Hatcher is the author of the Progress Pentagon parenting courses and founder of the best-selling : Unleashing The Positive Mind Masterclass. She is a certified CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, mother of 15 year old Jon who has Autism and PDA and certified Life Coach.

She is also a member of the Complimentary Medical Association, the International Alliance of Holistic Therapists
and The Association of Integrative Psychology.  Her autobiography, How To… uncovers the secrets of Autism and how to overcome it plus it tracks her life as a mother of an Autistic child, how she developed her best-selling courses using CBT and NLP with Autism. She is also a public speaker on Autism Awareness.

She lives in Wiltshire with husband Nick, son, Jon and three cats; Apple, Missy and Augusta.