How To Manage Bed Wetting In 7 Minutes

5 minutes on how to manage bewetting in autism

Hello there! Today, I am going to share with you my tips on how to manage childhood bed wetting in Autism in FIVE MINUTES.

First off, let’s talk about what are the causes of toddler and school bed wetting.

Did you know that bedwetting is a very common thing in childhood? In fact, 20% of all children under the age of 5 bed wet at some point. Children tend to grow out of it and only 1% are still bed wetting by the age of 15.

But what about Autism?

We know that stress levels are high in Autism. The average autistic child feels the same amount of anxiety first thing in the morning as a neuro-typical child feels in the middle of a school day. Many autistic children experience high levels of anxiety in everyday life. Meaning bedwetting can be a very frustrating problem for parents.

So, next, let’s tackle some common myths;

  1. Bed wetting is attention seeking behaviour; Rubbish. Bed wetting is uncontrollable for the child. They wouldn’t do it, if they could control it.
  2. It doesn’t run in families; Yes, it does. It can be hereditary.
  3. Kids bed wet because they are lazy: wrong again. It is uncontrolled and happens. The last reason it happens is laziness.
  4. Kids can control it consciously. Well, it’s hard to believe that some people still think that way…

Next, let’s look at TWO important things you must NEVER do:

NEVER make your child clean it up – this will only make them feel worse. Bed wetting is not bad behaviour and so therefore, cannot be managed this way.

NEVER tease or scold a child for wetting the bed. It’s no one’s fault that it happens.

Okay, so what CAN we do about it? Well, there are lots of ways we can tackle bed wetting. First off, reassure your child that they are safe, not naughty for doing it and that they are comforted and loved. Do this, and you are half way there to solving the problem.

Avoid late night drinks especially ones that contain caffeine. And late night snacks too. Also, it might be worth avoiding your child going to the toilet twice before bed. Once before preparation for bed and again just before they get into bed. It might sound like a good idea to ensure that their bladder is truly empty but this will only encourage their bladder to relax so that it could wee accidentally after the child has fallen asleep.

Check to see if it’s a medical problem. Contact your GP or doctor if your child has been dry for six months prior to bed wetting, particularly if they are over the age of 7, as it may be an infection like a UTI (urinary tract infection.) Ask your child if they feel a burning sensation when they wee. This sometimes it’s good indicator of an infection. Also, note if they are wetting themselves during the day. If they are school age, check with their teacher to make sure there isn’t anything stressful going on in school that you might not know about.

Once you see your GP, he will ask you about home life, family background and so to eliminate any stress that could be causing the bed wetting. Don’t forget, that children can easily pick up stresses felt by another member of the household.

Medication:

Your GP may offer medication to help your child sleep like Melatonin (you can find out more about Melatonin from our video here.) Or you might like to try some herbal remedies but check with your doctor first before giving these to your child.

Consider a mattress protector and even a moisture alarm which you can buy from Amazon. These are alarms, like baby monitors, which will alert you to any wetness in your child’s bed. This will encourage your child to get up and go to the bathroom, as you can wake them in time. You might also like to try waking your child up in the middle of the night to see if they want to go to the toilet.

Night plug in night lights to show a way to the bathroom if your house is very dark at night. Children fear the dark sometimes and this could be what’s stopping them from getting up and going to the loo.

If you want to find out more about bedwetting, you will love our video.

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Unleash The Positive Mind e-course is awarded top ratings on Udemy

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But there is more in store for this amazing parent and author. Read on to find out more.

The new and exciting Unleash The Positive Mind 2 hours e-course on Udemy focusing on CBT methods with Autism has, this week, been awarded 4.5 stars out of 5. Created by CBT and NLP therapist, Michelle Hatcher, she has worked hard on her research on communication skills over the last 10 years so she’s had little time to stop and reflect. With a #1 Best Seller on Amazon already making heads turn and the launch of the official course handbook, we caught up with her on her recent successes to ask why, where and what was the inspiration behind this revoluntionary course.

 

Following the mad rush to enrol by hundreds of students in its first 72 hour launch, the Unleash The Positive Mind course was expected by its creator, Michelle Hatcher, to do well, but says the mother and CBT Therapist, she was still taken by surprise. Yet her goal isn’t to stop there. Next week, she and Jon embark on some pretty life changing events…

It was quite extraordinary. I knew there was a call for parent training in Autism but we didn’t expect such popularity. It means that a lot of hard work and effort has paid off. I am delighted. My next venture is to document Jon’s forthcoming corrective spinal surgery due to his Scoliosis through a YouTube series. The idea is to do two things; one, to enable other parents out there with ASD children going through corrective surgery, and two, to help me through a pretty dark and emotional time. I never forget that I’m a parent too! It will be good therapy for me as well as helping others all over the world.

The short course which focuses on only a handful of carefully restructured CBT methods, has been an incredible help to many families already, encouraging once non-verbal children to quickly pick up communication skills which had been otherwise, put aside.  Michelle says,

I have always had the belief that some barriers in Autism are down to a deep lack of self-trust. Once children found an ability to do something well, the progression from there on is natural. Many parents experience their child’s frustration in not being able to be heard. It can be hugely disappointing for the parents when children move into their own closed worlds, feeling safe there.

The fact that families could see results by implementing some core strategies in communication is hugely encouraging, but it still has to be said that there is still no cure for Autism. Michelle Hatcher, mother of 15 year old Autistic Jon, whom she bases much of her work and research, said,

We must be realistic in our mind set that there may never be a cure for Autism, however, the methods I worked on with my own son have indeed, worked. Taking these methods beyond our own parameters, I’ve been able to work personally with other parents and got the same positive results.

So why is it down to the parents then to teach the skills that specialist teachers and ASD units should be doing? I found Michelle Hatcher had a firm answer to this.

The key when working with Autism is not to work against it but work with it. One of the things I discovered was that a child with Autism has a very powerful bond with their primary caregiver. Thus meaning that they see this person as their lead teacher in life. So in that case, why not just train this caregiver to teach the child what they need to learn? For me, it was perfectly simple. All I had to do as a parent was to teach my son the skills that the school wasn’t teaching him, for one reason or another.

Yet perhaps the one thing that does stick out from the success of this new e-course for parents is that schools are letting our children down. Does this mean that this course will highlight the failings once more of our own educational system?

That may well be the case, but I do think that for parents, this isn’t new news. Parents for many years have felt frustrations of their own when it comes to the relationship between school and home. This course is merely handing back to the parent the dignity and importance where some schools have undermined that in the past.

You can find out more about the e-course Unleash The Positive Mind here and download the official course handbook here. 

Follow Michelle on YouTube here and subscribe to her Autism Parenting series and follow her and Jon LIVE from Monday 28th of November ‘Correcting the Scoliosis’

 

 

What Would You Change About Your Child’s Autism?

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Books books and more books telling you have to be a parent, well you know that anyway!

How to turn your child's autism around and save moneyThere have been hundreds of books written about Autism. Some by professionals, others by parents, but there is never a truer word ever spoken by someone who is both.

Michelle Hatcher, CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner and certified Life Coach is also a mother to Jon, her almost 16 year old son.  Diagnosed with Autism at the age of 10, he went on to develop pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome and severe Scoliosis. If that wasn’t enough for mother and son to cope with, there was also single parenting, domestic abuse, unemployment and homelessness to deal with it.

This extraordinary journey reflects on the last 15 years in frank brutality; the woes of a parent faced with countless adversaries naturally questions her skills and life. The second half of the book is the miraculous turn around of fortunes in every way for the pair. Not only does Michelle find the paths to success but Jon overcomes every single knock back and affirmation once held against him.

The boy who was once told would never attend mainstream school, speak, walk, socialise and live independently, turned each of these on its head and beat the system.

 

 

 

 

What this book can do for YOU right now…

Read about how YOU can turn your child’s autism around and give both yourself and your child back the life you always dreamed of.

No hocus pocus, no financial cost, just simple plain talking and a lot of perfectly effective methods you can apply today.

Get results right now and start saving the hundreds of thousands you would need in care and support.

 

You looked forward to spending countless holidays with your family the day your children are born. The happiness you feel holding them for the first time is mind-blowing. Your heart is fit to burst of love for them. Suddenly, you start planning for them. All the hours you’re going to spend together, the time away, the sports, cycle rides, parties… the list goes on and on…

Then there is the concern. The panic that there might be something wrong. She doesn’t point at you when you walk in the room. He doesn’t seem to hear his name being called. You look into their eyes and it is almost as if you are looking straight through. There seems nothing there.

That first moment is like a cold cloak that surrounds you.  Your world has changed, but at first, you don’t know how much. That comes later….

Remember the dreams you had of this with your children?

 

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Well, forget them. You will be lucky if you can afford to got on holiday in your own country, let alone anywhere else in the world warmer and happier.

 

Do you know how much it will cost you to support your child for life?

In the UK, it will cost you around £300,000. In the U.S, you can look at a price tag of around $450,000

That’s just for care and support services for your child, that’s not counting housing, food, clothing and so on.

And you can forget housing benefit. As it stands in the UK, a single person under the age of 25 won’t get a penny. YOU will have to fork for their housing, and oh yes, there is a waiting list for supporting living in the South as this is where you will find the most of it…. so you will have to wait.

That means your child could be living with your for the rest of your life.

And you will be the unpaid carer, until you die of course, then they are likely to become homeless, be victims of crime, blackmail and so on.

So you’re more likely to spend the rest of your life looking rather like this…

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Yes, that looks more familiar.

Good huh?

So while your friends are enjoying their perfect families watching their children grow, go to university, get degrees, good jobs and get married to equally perfect partners, you can look forward to your child growing up into a person who will be in and out of clinics, hospital waiting rooms, psychiatric wards suffering with depression as well as a long list of other ailments, with no future, no life, no hope and no one to look after them after you have gone.

Whooppeee… not!

So what would you change if you could?

Of course, there are some wonderful elements to Autism.  There is that wicked sense of humour. The cuddles, the wise things they suddenly come out with at times of despair. They are unique. Stunning people in this black and white world, but that won’t keep them alive, will it?

I bet you’re thinking there is not hope for your child. That you will just continue to struggle on regardless until something happens like a Lottery win perhaps, yeah right, like that’s really going to happen.

But there IS something you can do for them.

What if you child could talk, attend mainstream school, have friends, do stuff, have a happy life, yes, and even be happy with themselves, wouldn’t you want that for them?

Seeing your child wailing in despair over a broken toy is heart breaking. Any other kid would just get on with life, but yours simply can’t. The despair they cry is not some over bloated attempt to get you to give in to them. What they feel is real and it is a 1000 times worse than you and me. This is why people with conditions like Autism are more likely to die up to 20 years before their peers and mostly from suicide triggered by depression.

This CAN be helped, but it is down to YOU as a parent. The State won’t fix it for you. Ever.

Michelle Hatcher on holiday with Jon

Today, you can teach your child to change the way they think, and in turn change the way they feel. This will mean your child can have a NORMAL life AND get to keep the best bits of their Autism too.

We’re not talk brain transplants here, just a few simple techniques that can catapult them into the life you and they have always wanted and this will save you THOUSANDS OF POUNDS!!!

 

So take a dive into this incredible true story and learn the key strategies which helped this boy on to the road to success (passing four GCSE’s at the age of 14…. not bad eh?) Oh yes, and by the way, this is me and Jon in the picture here…

Remember, YOUR child’s future is in YOUR hands. Take action and learn today the methods I used with my son which got INSTANT results!

You owe it to your child, you and your future.

Read it NOW and start thinking of that beach holiday again!

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I am delighted to tell you that my course UNLEASH THE POSITIVE MIND has been awarded 4.5 stars on Udemy by its hundreds of already enrolled students!

 

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Just click on the image to start making REAL practical progress with your child today!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Dallas Counselor gives 4 Tips to Raise Awareness

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http://www.totallifecounseling.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/11/Autism-sesame-Street-Character.jpgRecently, Sesame Street has added a new member to its cast! Joining Elmo, Big Bird, Bert and Ernie, is Julia—a character with autism. The newest addition to Sesame Street is intended to spread awareness about individuals with autism. According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 1 in 68 U.S. children has a disorder on the autism spectrum. A 2014 CDC report states that about 1 in 42 boys have autism and 1 in 189 girls have autism.

The Sesame Street and Autism: See All in Amazing Children special is available via app or desktop computer. It contains daily cards and resources to help family, friends, and loved ones caring for a child with autism.

I am so excited to see such strides being made for supporting autism. It’s a much more popular disorder than many realize, and in one-way or another we all encounter autism. A friend’s child, a cousin, a reality star’s son, your child—awareness, research, and support needs to spread faster and stronger than the disorder.

What’s even better about this new program is the audience it will reach. The importance of children learning about autism cannot be stressed enough. Throughout my personal experience in elementary schools, sadly even in high school and college, people do not know how to properly speak and interact with those who have intellectual and autism spectrum disorders. Now, children watching Sesame Street can become educated on autism, learn how to speak and interact with those who have special needs, reduce ignorance, and spread support from an early age.

In the story, Elmo plays with Julia on the playground and helps friend Abby Cadabby comprehend that Julia plays differently than them and their other friends. Through patience and understanding, Elmo helps Abby understand Julia—a lesson we can all take note of. “Elmo’s daddy told Elmo that Julia has autism. So she does things a little differently. Sesame Street New Autistic Spectrum Character, ASD Awareness, ASD Orlando Counseling, Autistic Therapist Orlando, Dallas Aspergers TherapySometimes Elmo talks to Julia using fewer words and says the same thing a few times” he says. When the friends venture out for a snack, Julia covers her ears once inside the store. Elmo explains to Abby that Julia has really good ears and hears things that he and Abby don’t notice, and some noises bother her. Simple lessons like this will teach children, and their parents, what autism is, what it is not, and how to be supportive to the millions of individuals who have a spectrum disorder.

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You can be encouraging and raise awareness as well!

  • Sesame Street is using #SeeAmazing to encourage people to share their stories, videos, pictures, advice, and support on social media. This will keep the conversation going, and network of awareness spreading.
  • Put up yard signs, sport a bumper sticker, or wear the puzzle piece apparel! A sign that says, “Autism awareness: Be understanding. Be aware” gives the right message to everyone who passes by.
  • Join a crowd! Participate in an awareness walk, attend a rally, or look into the Autism Society’s events in your area.
  • Be a friend, be kind, and be compassionate. If you know someone who cares for someone with autism, call and check up on them every now and then. If you hear someone say something rude or inconsiderate about autism, or any disability for that matter, address it. Don’t let the ignorance slide.

Author: Emily Simpson (Intern)

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AUTHOR: Jada Jackson, MS, LMHC – Dallas Fort Worth Arlington Texas Communicator, Coach & Licensed Mental Health Counselor working with couples, teens, young adults and women empowerment issues! Jada Jackson can be reached at (469) 757-5215 for a Complimentary 15 Minute Call.

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get your child's social and comunication skills up to speed today!Michelle Hatcher is the author of the Progress Pentagon parenting courses and founder of the best-selling : Unleashing The Positive Mind Masterclass. She is a certified CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, mother of 15 year old Jon who has Autism and PDA and certified Life Coach.

She is also a member of the Complimentary Medical Association, the International Alliance of Holistic Therapists
and The Association of Integrative Psychology.  Her autobiography, How To… uncovers the secrets of Autism and how to overcome it plus it tracks her life as a mother of an Autistic child, how she developed her best-selling courses using CBT and NLP with Autism. She is also a public speaker on Autism Awareness.

She lives in Wiltshire with husband Nick, son, Jon and three cats; Apple, Missy and Augusta.