Parenting Autism: How To Get A Diagnosis For Your Child

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Getting a diagnosis for Autism can be a very stressful time for the parents. You have probably spent weeks, months and possibly years wondering if you’re going loopy or that there is actually, something wrong with your child. Now you have got this far, you want to know what’s going to happen next.

There is no medical test to prove whether your child has Autism or not. It is not like testing to see if they have a fractured toe. It is rather a process of elimination. You, as their carer will be asked a lot of questions about family history, environment, school (if appropriate) plus they will want you to give in as much detail as you can your child’s developmental progress as you see it.

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There will be, for the paediatrician or child development professional a checklist they will go through to determine if there are signs of Autism. Depending on how old your child is (as they can see many teenagers as well as toddlers) they will perform some role playing with them, chat to them, ask them to engage in a board game, play with toys and so on.

What he or she is looking for here is interaction, imagination and communication. These are the three areas which are particularly affected by Autism. After a few weeks (possibly 3 to 6 meetings with you and your child) they will offer a report for you to go through. It will also offer a diagnosis. You have plenty of time to read through it thoroughly to see if you agree. There will be some information on suggested support interventions to help your child develop the areas where they appear to struggle.

One of the main points in this film is that you don’t have to go with the first opinion you’re offered. If you are not happy with the diagnosis, ask to be seen by someone else.

One of the things that parents tend to do is rely heavily on what they are told by a group of professionals and ignore the questions piling up in their minds. It is very easy to feel as though you are being swept along with the tide. Along the line you may find it all very overwhelming; you though your child’s life was going one way and not suddenly it is going in a different direction. It is sad but parents can tend to be forgotten about during the process. It is vital that you talk to someone when you feel swamped. You can call either the Young Minds helpline or, if you wish, the National Autistic Society helpline. They are open 24 hours a day are specially trained to help with any worries you have confidentially.

The more supported YOU feel, the better the outcome for you and your child. So do please remember to look after yourself too.  Watch the following video on the subject of getting a diagnosis and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

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michelle hatcher's powering parenting for autismMichelle Hatcher is an Autism researcher and campaigner, consultant CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, Accredited Life Coach and mother of an Autistic teenager.

She is also a member of the Association of Integrative Psychology, the Institute of Leasdership and Management and the International Association of Neuro-linguistic Programming and Coaching. She has studied Autism and childhood conditions over over 15 years. She is the author of the #1 Best Selling parenting book: How To Turn Your Child’s Autism Around And Save Money. She currently conducts Autism parenting classes along with her practice. She lives in Wiltshire in the UK with her son, her family and three cats. 




The ‘How to Power Parent Autism’ series lanches on YouTube

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We are completely tickled pink to announce my new YouTube channel which opened its studio for the first time this week.

On the channel, I will bring to you every week my best tips and advice on parenting Autism. I shall also be using it help reach as many parents as I can across the world directly so we can all work together to support each other, where ever we are!

I shall be bringing you short talking head videos on everything from social skills to getting up in the morning! I am looking forward to sharing all my personal and professional tricks and methods with you, to help you enjoy life and create a happier existence for you and your family.

I know living with an Autistic child can be challenging at the best of times, therefore I think you will find my channel warm, friendly and welcoming. I also hope you will be able to come away with some great support and advice too!

Here is a quick taster of what’s coming up in the series.

The topics we will be covering in our short, bite size videos will be:


Each series will include no more than five videos each so you won’t have to endlessly search through miles of video to find exactly what you’re looking for!

I look forward to you joining me! Don’t forget to like and share our films and subscribe too!

See you there!

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What Would You Change About Your Child’s Autism?

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Books books and more books telling you have to be a parent, well you know that anyway!

How to turn your child's autism around and save moneyThere have been hundreds of books written about Autism. Some by professionals, others by parents, but there is never a truer word ever spoken by someone who is both.

Michelle Hatcher, CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner and certified Life Coach is also a mother to Jon, her almost 16 year old son.  Diagnosed with Autism at the age of 10, he went on to develop pathological Demand Avoidance Syndrome and severe Scoliosis. If that wasn’t enough for mother and son to cope with, there was also single parenting, domestic abuse, unemployment and homelessness to deal with it.

This extraordinary journey reflects on the last 15 years in frank brutality; the woes of a parent faced with countless adversaries naturally questions her skills and life. The second half of the book is the miraculous turn around of fortunes in every way for the pair. Not only does Michelle find the paths to success but Jon overcomes every single knock back and affirmation once held against him.

The boy who was once told would never attend mainstream school, speak, walk, socialise and live independently, turned each of these on its head and beat the system.





What this book can do for YOU right now…

Read about how YOU can turn your child’s autism around and give both yourself and your child back the life you always dreamed of.

No hocus pocus, no financial cost, just simple plain talking and a lot of perfectly effective methods you can apply today.

Get results right now and start saving the hundreds of thousands you would need in care and support.


You looked forward to spending countless holidays with your family the day your children are born. The happiness you feel holding them for the first time is mind-blowing. Your heart is fit to burst of love for them. Suddenly, you start planning for them. All the hours you’re going to spend together, the time away, the sports, cycle rides, parties… the list goes on and on…

Then there is the concern. The panic that there might be something wrong. She doesn’t point at you when you walk in the room. He doesn’t seem to hear his name being called. You look into their eyes and it is almost as if you are looking straight through. There seems nothing there.

That first moment is like a cold cloak that surrounds you.  Your world has changed, but at first, you don’t know how much. That comes later….

Remember the dreams you had of this with your children?


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Well, forget them. You will be lucky if you can afford to got on holiday in your own country, let alone anywhere else in the world warmer and happier.


Do you know how much it will cost you to support your child for life?

In the UK, it will cost you around £300,000. In the U.S, you can look at a price tag of around $450,000

That’s just for care and support services for your child, that’s not counting housing, food, clothing and so on.

And you can forget housing benefit. As it stands in the UK, a single person under the age of 25 won’t get a penny. YOU will have to fork for their housing, and oh yes, there is a waiting list for supporting living in the South as this is where you will find the most of it…. so you will have to wait.

That means your child could be living with your for the rest of your life.

And you will be the unpaid carer, until you die of course, then they are likely to become homeless, be victims of crime, blackmail and so on.

So you’re more likely to spend the rest of your life looking rather like this…

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Yes, that looks more familiar.

Good huh?

So while your friends are enjoying their perfect families watching their children grow, go to university, get degrees, good jobs and get married to equally perfect partners, you can look forward to your child growing up into a person who will be in and out of clinics, hospital waiting rooms, psychiatric wards suffering with depression as well as a long list of other ailments, with no future, no life, no hope and no one to look after them after you have gone.

Whooppeee… not!

So what would you change if you could?

Of course, there are some wonderful elements to Autism.  There is that wicked sense of humour. The cuddles, the wise things they suddenly come out with at times of despair. They are unique. Stunning people in this black and white world, but that won’t keep them alive, will it?

I bet you’re thinking there is not hope for your child. That you will just continue to struggle on regardless until something happens like a Lottery win perhaps, yeah right, like that’s really going to happen.

But there IS something you can do for them.

What if you child could talk, attend mainstream school, have friends, do stuff, have a happy life, yes, and even be happy with themselves, wouldn’t you want that for them?

Seeing your child wailing in despair over a broken toy is heart breaking. Any other kid would just get on with life, but yours simply can’t. The despair they cry is not some over bloated attempt to get you to give in to them. What they feel is real and it is a 1000 times worse than you and me. This is why people with conditions like Autism are more likely to die up to 20 years before their peers and mostly from suicide triggered by depression.

This CAN be helped, but it is down to YOU as a parent. The State won’t fix it for you. Ever.

Michelle Hatcher on holiday with Jon

Today, you can teach your child to change the way they think, and in turn change the way they feel. This will mean your child can have a NORMAL life AND get to keep the best bits of their Autism too.

We’re not talk brain transplants here, just a few simple techniques that can catapult them into the life you and they have always wanted and this will save you THOUSANDS OF POUNDS!!!


So take a dive into this incredible true story and learn the key strategies which helped this boy on to the road to success (passing four GCSE’s at the age of 14…. not bad eh?) Oh yes, and by the way, this is me and Jon in the picture here…

Remember, YOUR child’s future is in YOUR hands. Take action and learn today the methods I used with my son which got INSTANT results!

You owe it to your child, you and your future.

Read it NOW and start thinking of that beach holiday again!


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When Shops Fail Customers With Autism


Yesterday, I went to a well-known computer shop to pick up my son’s laptop after it had been away for a week being repaired. Sending emails over the period of the laptop being away, I was determined to make sure that the hundreds of pictures, strategies and projects Jon had been working on were safely backed up. After all, we had taken out a care policy to ensure that if anything went wrong, all of Jon’s things were safe.

Jon loves his gaming. He makes friends all over the world (a part of building his social skills, he finds this the best way to find friends.) He plays team games for hours on end and they discuss lots of things like life, music, films and hobbies.

I have always been smart when it comes to dealing with companies and shops. Every time something has had to go back either for repair or a refund, I have carefully kept letters, conversations, names of people I have spoken to and so on, just in case. This was another one of those times when I was glad I had stored up all my correspondence.

Jon readily and willingly trusts everyone. I am cautious.

The shop in question had wiped Jon’s computer clean, despite my correspondence making sure that it wouldn’t happen.

Now, of course I have complained formally and the case is now being looking over by the company, so as far as my neuro-typical brain is concerned, that’s job done and very little else I could do.

For Jon, it was a catastrophe. Two and a half years of hundreds of pictures of games, projects, things he had made, contacts, all gone.

Driving home to break the news to Jon was something I was dreading. I knew it would be bad. I knew there would be a meltdown and it would against me. Jon doesn’t understand that these things happen and no matter how careful you might be in life, there will always be people who will make mistakes and let you down. It’s a fact of life. For Jon, it means war.

The Meltdown

The meltdown which ensued was pretty violent. Things were thrown, smashed up, it took about an hour of me trying to calm him down to a point where I could talk to him rationally. I had things thrown at me, books ripped up, a bedroom trashed. Jon shouted out all sorts of nasty things, swearing and cursing until he was quite blue in the face. By the evening, I had managed to get him to start laughing at a book I was showing him. I took his mind off the world which as far as he was concerned, had crashed down around him.  He went to bed calm and in a better frame of mind. By 2am, he was crying, wailing and sitting in the middle of his bedroom floor with his bed-things thrown across the room. Wide awake and crying.

I soothe him with a story and a cuddle and the night is returned to its peaceful slumber once more.

So what is the point of this rant this morning? An autistic boy doesn’t understand what had happened to his laptop, so?

I shall tell you why.

Companies are failing. Not just us anyway by not doing things right, but they are failing another part of society. They fail to realise the impact that such a ‘minor’ mistake, as far as they’re concerned, has on someone with special needs.

A person with Autism feels every bump in the road of life 1000 times more than anyone else. They don’t have the capacity to understand that bad things happen. All they see is the world they love turning its back on them, casting them into a dark pit of nothingness. The world is failing to care and so therefore it should be destroyed in some way, and made to feel as bad as they do. Jon sees every hiccup as a personal vendetta against him.

What I would like companies, shops and other organisations to do is stop and think about the impact that their carelessness might have on the customer.  I don’t like to play the ‘Autism card’ when it comes to complaining to people like this computer shop as I feel that doesn’t work, but more to the point, they are not really bothered about who is on the receiving end of their mistake. However, I do think their management teams need to consider the impact of their actions on the section of society who struggle with life as it is anyway, let alone other people’s failings.

1 in a 100 children in the UK are on the spectrum. That’s a lot of future customers.

So all I am asking shops to do is just stop and think the next time you think to yourself, ‘can I be bothered to do this properly?’

The answer is, yes, you can, because you might be stepping on someone’s world if you don’t.

Keep safe and happy everyone.


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