How To Manage Bed Wetting In 7 Minutes

5 minutes on how to manage bewetting in autism

Hello there! Today, I am going to share with you my tips on how to manage childhood bed wetting in Autism in FIVE MINUTES.

First off, let’s talk about what are the causes of toddler and school bed wetting.

Did you know that bedwetting is a very common thing in childhood? In fact, 20% of all children under the age of 5 bed wet at some point. Children tend to grow out of it and only 1% are still bed wetting by the age of 15.

But what about Autism?

We know that stress levels are high in Autism. The average autistic child feels the same amount of anxiety first thing in the morning as a neuro-typical child feels in the middle of a school day. Many autistic children experience high levels of anxiety in everyday life. Meaning bedwetting can be a very frustrating problem for parents.

So, next, let’s tackle some common myths;

  1. Bed wetting is attention seeking behaviour; Rubbish. Bed wetting is uncontrollable for the child. They wouldn’t do it, if they could control it.
  2. It doesn’t run in families; Yes, it does. It can be hereditary.
  3. Kids bed wet because they are lazy: wrong again. It is uncontrolled and happens. The last reason it happens is laziness.
  4. Kids can control it consciously. Well, it’s hard to believe that some people still think that way…

Next, let’s look at TWO important things you must NEVER do:

NEVER make your child clean it up – this will only make them feel worse. Bed wetting is not bad behaviour and so therefore, cannot be managed this way.

NEVER tease or scold a child for wetting the bed. It’s no one’s fault that it happens.

Okay, so what CAN we do about it? Well, there are lots of ways we can tackle bed wetting. First off, reassure your child that they are safe, not naughty for doing it and that they are comforted and loved. Do this, and you are half way there to solving the problem.

Avoid late night drinks especially ones that contain caffeine. And late night snacks too. Also, it might be worth avoiding your child going to the toilet twice before bed. Once before preparation for bed and again just before they get into bed. It might sound like a good idea to ensure that their bladder is truly empty but this will only encourage their bladder to relax so that it could wee accidentally after the child has fallen asleep.

Check to see if it’s a medical problem. Contact your GP or doctor if your child has been dry for six months prior to bed wetting, particularly if they are over the age of 7, as it may be an infection like a UTI (urinary tract infection.) Ask your child if they feel a burning sensation when they wee. This sometimes it’s good indicator of an infection. Also, note if they are wetting themselves during the day. If they are school age, check with their teacher to make sure there isn’t anything stressful going on in school that you might not know about.

Once you see your GP, he will ask you about home life, family background and so to eliminate any stress that could be causing the bed wetting. Don’t forget, that children can easily pick up stresses felt by another member of the household.

Medication:

Your GP may offer medication to help your child sleep like Melatonin (you can find out more about Melatonin from our video here.) Or you might like to try some herbal remedies but check with your doctor first before giving these to your child.

Consider a mattress protector and even a moisture alarm which you can buy from Amazon. These are alarms, like baby monitors, which will alert you to any wetness in your child’s bed. This will encourage your child to get up and go to the bathroom, as you can wake them in time. You might also like to try waking your child up in the middle of the night to see if they want to go to the toilet.

Night plug in night lights to show a way to the bathroom if your house is very dark at night. Children fear the dark sometimes and this could be what’s stopping them from getting up and going to the loo.

If you want to find out more about bedwetting, you will love our video.

How to managed bed wetting in 7 minutes

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Unleash The Positive Mind e-course is awarded top ratings on Udemy

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But there is more in store for this amazing parent and author. Read on to find out more.

The new and exciting Unleash The Positive Mind 2 hours e-course on Udemy focusing on CBT methods with Autism has, this week, been awarded 4.5 stars out of 5. Created by CBT and NLP therapist, Michelle Hatcher, she has worked hard on her research on communication skills over the last 10 years so she’s had little time to stop and reflect. With a #1 Best Seller on Amazon already making heads turn and the launch of the official course handbook, we caught up with her on her recent successes to ask why, where and what was the inspiration behind this revoluntionary course.

 

Following the mad rush to enrol by hundreds of students in its first 72 hour launch, the Unleash The Positive Mind course was expected by its creator, Michelle Hatcher, to do well, but says the mother and CBT Therapist, she was still taken by surprise. Yet her goal isn’t to stop there. Next week, she and Jon embark on some pretty life changing events…

It was quite extraordinary. I knew there was a call for parent training in Autism but we didn’t expect such popularity. It means that a lot of hard work and effort has paid off. I am delighted. My next venture is to document Jon’s forthcoming corrective spinal surgery due to his Scoliosis through a YouTube series. The idea is to do two things; one, to enable other parents out there with ASD children going through corrective surgery, and two, to help me through a pretty dark and emotional time. I never forget that I’m a parent too! It will be good therapy for me as well as helping others all over the world.

The short course which focuses on only a handful of carefully restructured CBT methods, has been an incredible help to many families already, encouraging once non-verbal children to quickly pick up communication skills which had been otherwise, put aside.  Michelle says,

I have always had the belief that some barriers in Autism are down to a deep lack of self-trust. Once children found an ability to do something well, the progression from there on is natural. Many parents experience their child’s frustration in not being able to be heard. It can be hugely disappointing for the parents when children move into their own closed worlds, feeling safe there.

The fact that families could see results by implementing some core strategies in communication is hugely encouraging, but it still has to be said that there is still no cure for Autism. Michelle Hatcher, mother of 15 year old Autistic Jon, whom she bases much of her work and research, said,

We must be realistic in our mind set that there may never be a cure for Autism, however, the methods I worked on with my own son have indeed, worked. Taking these methods beyond our own parameters, I’ve been able to work personally with other parents and got the same positive results.

So why is it down to the parents then to teach the skills that specialist teachers and ASD units should be doing? I found Michelle Hatcher had a firm answer to this.

The key when working with Autism is not to work against it but work with it. One of the things I discovered was that a child with Autism has a very powerful bond with their primary caregiver. Thus meaning that they see this person as their lead teacher in life. So in that case, why not just train this caregiver to teach the child what they need to learn? For me, it was perfectly simple. All I had to do as a parent was to teach my son the skills that the school wasn’t teaching him, for one reason or another.

Yet perhaps the one thing that does stick out from the success of this new e-course for parents is that schools are letting our children down. Does this mean that this course will highlight the failings once more of our own educational system?

That may well be the case, but I do think that for parents, this isn’t new news. Parents for many years have felt frustrations of their own when it comes to the relationship between school and home. This course is merely handing back to the parent the dignity and importance where some schools have undermined that in the past.

You can find out more about the e-course Unleash The Positive Mind here and download the official course handbook here. 

Follow Michelle on YouTube here and subscribe to her Autism Parenting series and follow her and Jon LIVE from Monday 28th of November ‘Correcting the Scoliosis’

 

 

Parenting Autism: How To Get A Diagnosis For Your Child

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Getting a diagnosis for Autism can be a very stressful time for the parents. You have probably spent weeks, months and possibly years wondering if you’re going loopy or that there is actually, something wrong with your child. Now you have got this far, you want to know what’s going to happen next.

There is no medical test to prove whether your child has Autism or not. It is not like testing to see if they have a fractured toe. It is rather a process of elimination. You, as their carer will be asked a lot of questions about family history, environment, school (if appropriate) plus they will want you to give in as much detail as you can your child’s developmental progress as you see it.

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There will be, for the paediatrician or child development professional a checklist they will go through to determine if there are signs of Autism. Depending on how old your child is (as they can see many teenagers as well as toddlers) they will perform some role playing with them, chat to them, ask them to engage in a board game, play with toys and so on.

What he or she is looking for here is interaction, imagination and communication. These are the three areas which are particularly affected by Autism. After a few weeks (possibly 3 to 6 meetings with you and your child) they will offer a report for you to go through. It will also offer a diagnosis. You have plenty of time to read through it thoroughly to see if you agree. There will be some information on suggested support interventions to help your child develop the areas where they appear to struggle.

One of the main points in this film is that you don’t have to go with the first opinion you’re offered. If you are not happy with the diagnosis, ask to be seen by someone else.

One of the things that parents tend to do is rely heavily on what they are told by a group of professionals and ignore the questions piling up in their minds. It is very easy to feel as though you are being swept along with the tide. Along the line you may find it all very overwhelming; you though your child’s life was going one way and not suddenly it is going in a different direction. It is sad but parents can tend to be forgotten about during the process. It is vital that you talk to someone when you feel swamped. You can call either the Young Minds helpline or, if you wish, the National Autistic Society helpline. They are open 24 hours a day are specially trained to help with any worries you have confidentially.

The more supported YOU feel, the better the outcome for you and your child. So do please remember to look after yourself too.  Watch the following video on the subject of getting a diagnosis and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode!

If you like this post, please subscribe to ensure you never miss an post! I will be covering all aspects of Autism from diagnosis to Autism in toddlers, school and KS1, KS2, KS3 and beyond, transition to adulthood, social environments, hospital stays and how to cope with them, employment and independent living.

Don’t forget to enrol in our FREE Udemy course called ‘Unleash The Positive Mind’ a short, but amazingly effective course to help you become the best teacher and power parent for your child. Take the course and you will find your child’s social and communication skills will rocket, simply by using the easy to follow methods. The course is for you and your child to complete. It provides easy to follow videos, downloads plus games and role playing making the learning process fun for both of you!

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michelle hatcher's powering parenting for autismMichelle Hatcher is an Autism researcher and campaigner, consultant CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, Accredited Life Coach and mother of an Autistic teenager.

She is also a member of the Association of Integrative Psychology, the Institute of Leasdership and Management and the International Association of Neuro-linguistic Programming and Coaching. She has studied Autism and childhood conditions over over 15 years. She is the author of the #1 Best Selling parenting book: How To Turn Your Child’s Autism Around And Save Money. She currently conducts Autism parenting classes along with her practice. She lives in Wiltshire in the UK with her son, her family and three cats. 

 

 

 

Good mental health parenting Autism

I received a very interesting idea from a reader this morning who wanted some guidance on mental health for parents and carers of Autism.  For something which is not often talked about, I was very very keen to get my thoughts and ideas down on the old electronic paper. So let’s think about this concept for today’s blog post.

How is your mental health and more importantly, how is it going to be over the summer holidays?

As parents, many schools would argue that rest is for those giving care within the home during the hours of 9am and 3pm (if you’re in the UK.) And they would be right, or would they?

Raising a child with Autism or any other disorder for that matter can be tough, and schools fail to appreciate that. It is emotionally draining as well as financially exhausting. Parents, like myself in the past, will often forgo visiting public places and not take part in normal activities simply to avoid the embarrassment and stress of a meltdown.  When Jon was much younger I would feel like having a meltdown myself. Starting a family day out with high hopes would often be thrown by the curbside due to shouts, swearing, punching and kicking only to return home half an hour later.

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Jon aged 6

Parents can feel as though they are being held prisoner in their own homes on sunny days at weekends because of their children’s Autism. As much as there have been campaigns up and down the country for Autism friendly parks and places to visit, sometimes, it is just the getting to these destinations which is more than families can bear.

So what can we do about it? I have come up with some solutions which I hope you will find useful to stop summer passing you by from behind a closed door. They are good for your child and good for keeping your mental health in excellent shape during the coming weeks;

  • A kick around in the park with a ball; Ok, so this might sound like a no brainer but a vast open space where there is a minimal chance of traffic and no noise from other children can be the best way to spend an afternoon. Jon would make immediate enemies in the busy playground as he would sit, mumbling to himself or follow other children around when they clearly did not want to be followed! Jon was happiest when walking around a nature reserve, or park with a duck pond and trees to hug. If I thought about taking him to an indoor adventureland, I was usually asking for trouble. National Trust places are great for having vast open estates of rambling woods and fields to run across, and because you need to be a member, they don’t get hugely busy during the week. English Heritage is another good one. Sporting ruins of castles, (just remember English Heritage buildings tend not to have ceilings) they are great places to roam.
  • Weekday Outings; When Jon was smaller and not glued to the teenage laptop years, I would take him out all over the place during the week. Of course, during term times this can be very tricky, but even during the holidays on weekdays and on slightly cloudier days, places tend to be less busy. One of Jon’s favourite things was to ride on trains. Living close to London at the time, I would spend the entire day riding up and down on the DLR. It didn’t matter to me. If he was happy, then that was fine by me, and that brings me on to the next point….
  • Be flexible; I found the best thing is always to be flexible and leave the days full of errands for another time. Go wherever your child wants to go. Even if it means spending three hours in Warhammer or Early Learning Centre. I spent days in the latter, often taking meals in with me. Don’t be stressed out before you step out the door or your child’s switch in mood will only make you feel worse.
  • Have a list; I would keep a list in my head of places to go. If you’re not keen about keeping stuff in your head, make a map and put flags on it for all the places you know you can go or you can take your child to so you have back up plans. Jon would change his mind at an instant, usually as we were going out the door. It is a good thing to refer to pinned up in the kitchen. With Jon’s PDA, his mind would shift violently so much so that if I didn’t come up with an alternative destination in five seconds, he would refuse to leave the house. You might not think having a list is needed in your household, but it will make you feel better if it’s there anyway.
  • Avoid visiting family; You might think it’s a good idea but seeing too much of your family will only give them the chance to give out well meaning advice which might set you on edge. For me at least, visiting family was often more stressful.

Getting out in the fresh air even for half an hour will help keep your sanity running smoothly.  Talk to your GP or the school or if you prefer, call the National Autistic Society Helpline if you’re concerned about how you feel mentally. Bringing up a child on the spectrum is normally what everyone else can’t begin to imagine. They will try to help, although it might not feel as though they are helping at all. Keep them at a distance if you think they will make you feel worse.  And always, always make time for yourself. Even if it’s a trip to the supermarket for an hour.

You are not alone. Being the parent or carer of a person with Autism can really suck sometimes. But that’s ok. You’re doing a brilliant job. Just be kind to yourself and give yourself breaks during the day during the school holidays. Even if it is just to go sit in another room with a cup of tea. No one is going to tell you off.

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get your child's social and comunication skills up to speed today!Michelle Hatcher is the author of the Progress Pentagon parenting courses and founder of the best-selling : Unleashing The Positive Mind Masterclass. She is a certified CBT Therapist, NLP Practitioner, mother of 15 year old Jon who has Autism and PDA and certified Life Coach.

She is also a member of the Complimentary Medical Association, the International Alliance of Holistic Therapists
and The Association of Integrative Psychology.  Her autobiography, How To… uncovers the secrets of Autism and how to overcome it plus it tracks her life as a mother of an Autistic child, how she developed her best-selling courses using CBT and NLP with Autism. She is also a public speaker on Autism Awareness.

She lives in Wiltshire with husband Nick, son, Jon and three cats; Apple, Missy and Augusta.